Vic/Tas requests help from senior workers Oct 21, 2010 8:53:25 GMT -5
Post by ts on Oct 21, 2010 8:53:25 GMT -5
Oct 21, 2010 7:04:07 GMT -5 @clearday said:Child Wise is a great site because there is so much material available right there online.
An interesting quote that surprised me a bit:
"The response from parents revealed that 65% believed that their
child would tell them something was wrong at the program/activity
and 45% said they would know by their child’s behaviour if something was wrong.
In the children’s survey only 18% said they would tell their parents
if they were upset or scared at the program/activity. The majority
said they would tell their teacher/coach at the time if they were
upset or scared."
It's a bit difficult to understand the thought process of a child who would tell a teacher/coach of problems but not parents. However, as cubby points out, no one under 10 is ever likely to report to police and is even quite unlikely to report to parents.
To eliminate CSA, there has to be a child-centered focus on their protection by all good people around those children. Children will, apparently, report to a trusted adult well before reporting to parents which means all adults should be involved in Child Protection. Without someone in the church field filling the role of a CPO, nothing will change.
The huge cultural shift that has to occur is a shift away from being a worker-focused, meeting-focused group. The shift has to become more focused to the needy, the small, the weak, the seeking.......which is what we are talking about when we say we need to be more "Christ-focused".
I agree with the cultural shift. The man is the priest of the home, not the workers. Many workers will tell parents how to raise their children. That is hard for some parents to handle. When there are parents who are willing to give over their authority, there will be a worker ready to take it. It often takes training to know how not to give over your authority and also takes training to know who not to take authority. This sort of training is lacking in the work and meetings.
The scenario goes like this: A person is told that the worker is a servant of God and feels the expectation to give over authority to the workers. The person gets burned and says something. Then they are told that they are guilty for giving over their authority.
That is very confusing. Proper training in boundaries and self confidence is necessary. Implementing that sort of training in the meeting environment would indeed take a major cultural shift.