dea
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Post by dea on Jun 13, 2006 23:58:14 GMT -5
To Rational, It's one of many faults... However, I have my irrational times too.
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Post by hi6 on Jun 14, 2006 7:55:56 GMT -5
There is nothing wrong with discussing sex! I don't like errotic and graphic talk that is meant to increase one's drives! But a woman should be able to discuss cancer in her female organs. I had professing relatives who felt that ANY talk about sex was out of line! I remember thinking a professing lady was sinning when she mentioned about her son listening to her baby kicking inside her womb!
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Post by I wonder on Jun 14, 2006 8:52:59 GMT -5
There is nothing wrong with discussing sex! I don't like errotic and graphic talk that is meant to increase one's drives! But a woman should be able to discuss cancer in her female organs. I had professing relatives who felt that ANY talk about sex was out of line! I remember thinking a professing lady was sinning when she mentioned about her son listening to her baby kicking inside her womb! I wonder what happened that made the discussion of sex too uncomfortable for people. Even here, on a message board where no one knows the identity of a poster people still resort to euphemisms. This has serious consequences. For example, colorectal cancer is one of the easiest cancers to detect early. Early detection means early treatment and the cure rate is high. But because of people's reluctance to have their anus probed, they avoid the tests and end up with full blown cancer which has a very high fatality rate. Here is a link to an article titled "Dying of Embarrassment?" www.bfawu.org/FWApr03H&S.pdf
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Post by chad on Jun 15, 2006 8:47:26 GMT -5
Leslie White in Colorado addresses the sex issues at Convention to the teenagers & young adults. He did last year at Edgewood & Happy.
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Post by lloydswanson on Jun 15, 2006 14:59:04 GMT -5
wish theyd have spoke to me about it
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Post by Target audience on Jun 15, 2006 15:23:54 GMT -5
wish theyd have spoke to me about it lloyd impersonator: I think they try to concentrate on the people likely to get some.
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Post by I wish on Jun 15, 2006 18:22:24 GMT -5
wish theyd have spoke to me about it I wish they had talked to your parents.
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Post by Not born on Jun 15, 2006 18:34:13 GMT -5
I wish they had talked to your parents. Wouldn't have done any good. The imposter wasn't born; he was discovered. Falling from the north end of a south-bound jackas, I believe.
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jun 15, 2006 19:47:06 GMT -5
Dea, I've been to a similar gathering. I know that we really enjoyed being able to anonymously ask questions, although there was an elder worker sitting in that ultimately moderated things so they didn't get out of hand and sometimes cut off a question.
One of the biggest problems is that professing parents don't really address this issue. I talked to my parents about sex a lot, and they knew I was ultimately waiting, which is why they were surprised when I did become pregnant.
It's easy for me to justify it by saying, "We were engaged. We were getting married... so.. it was okay." But, I realize that's merely an excuse.
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Post by Professing parents on Jun 16, 2006 11:12:33 GMT -5
One of the biggest problems is that professing parents don't really address this issue. This is not a professing/not professing issue. It happens to families from any religion. I believe this is especially true for Christian populations who have heard the dangers of sex preached against so much that it had become a taboo subject. I am guessing that they thought you were waiting or are we looking at another virgin birth? Although you talked to your parents did they mention birth control? Were you using any or did you become one of the cases when the method you were using failed?
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jun 17, 2006 16:35:36 GMT -5
I made it clear to all my boyfriends that I was waiting until marriage. I didn't make that clear (and well, just didn't even abide by the rule) when I met the man I eventually married.
Did my parents mention birth control? No, but they did tell me I should be safe. We were using a method, and it was the one time we didn't use the method that I got pregnant.
And while, having a child that soon into our live was a bit... hectic and definitely not the smartest thing, I don't regret it. She's an adorable well-behaved child, a blessing.
(Btw, I agree, it is an issue that affects alot of people, but I, like others, find that some religions are more open to discussing sex than others.)
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Post by Waiting for Sex on Jun 17, 2006 20:51:14 GMT -5
I made it clear to all my boyfriends that I was waiting until marriage. I didn't make that clear (and well, just didn't even abide by the rule) when I met the man I eventually married. This brings up an earlier point: People say they are waiting to have sex until they get married, as you did. But I am guessing that you, as did I, had experiences that would not be considered non-sexual by any standard. For me the sexual line was drawn at vaginal intercourse. But other than that, with a few people who I was sure were the "right" people, there was a lot of latitude. I mean, to the point where I could well have become pregnant. I guess it would have been a virgin birth but when I finally learned everything about sex I was shocked that it all worked out as well as it did! So when people say they will remain a virgin until they marry does it in some way open a lot of other doors because they feel they are "doing the right thing" so they are more relaxed about doing other things. (blushing in the privacy of her room!)
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