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Post by thebelly on Apr 23, 2006 22:34:22 GMT -5
Hello everyone!
I couldn't find a place here (I'm terrible with the internet) to introduce myself, so I'll just barge on in with an intro:
I'm a 26yr old guy from the mountain states. I recently got married to a girl that's not a member. I've gotten a bit of flack about it, and if that's your intent to me, go ahead and just get it out of the way.
I currently live north of Baltimore, and I'm looking for a meeting to go to. I will only live here for a couple more months then will be moving again; hazards of my job.
I've had an interesting experience with the friends, but I'm fairly introverted about some of the experiences that I've had. I mostly want to look around an ask questions. I ask a LOT of questions.
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Post by Greg Lee unplugged on Apr 23, 2006 22:48:43 GMT -5
If you are a member, you should be able to simply ask a worker to connect you with a meeting place.
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Post by thebelly on Apr 23, 2006 22:53:26 GMT -5
If you are a member, you should be able to simply ask a worker to connect you with a meeting place. Nice to meet you too, 'Greg' |
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Post by nitro on Apr 23, 2006 22:58:34 GMT -5
Start asking!!Questions that is. ;D
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Post by thebelly on Apr 23, 2006 23:06:51 GMT -5
Why is it such a big deal that I married a girl that isn't a member?
Why do I always feel out of place when I go to the meetings?
Why is it that the all people ever hear about me is the stupid things that I've done? (remember the interesting experiences? so do MOST of the friends I've encountered)
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Post by if on Apr 23, 2006 23:40:36 GMT -5
Why is it such a big deal that I married a girl that isn't a member? Why do I always feel out of place when I go to the meetings? Why is it that the all people ever hear about me is the stupid things that I've done? (remember the interesting experiences? so do MOST of the friends I've encountered) if you are feeling out of place it is probably coming from your own sense of guilt. we have many in our meetings who are unequally yoked who don't get any cold shoulder or the likes. |
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Post by Bonnie on Apr 24, 2006 6:38:13 GMT -5
The above is not necessarily true. If you are not doing what the standard is for the professing, like marring a girl who professes etc, you already know what many will think. It is not that you've done anything wrong but you know many in the way think you have so of course you would be on edge.
When I quit taking part, it was the best thing for me and my conscience, but I still felt bad going to meetings because I knew some there were thinking badly or sadly for me.
There is such joy with God, and I realized that I didn't want to be part of a group that made me feel just by being there like I was wasn't good enough. And let me clarify, it was only the outward things that I was being judged by, because many automatically by just appearances counted me as lost.
I do understand that mentallity because I was there once, but that didn't mean that I had to be part of it anymore.
A sister told me one time that we should look the same everyday like on Sunday. ie the dress. I said then why don't the men have to wear ties all week long. She was floored that I guess I would fight back sort to speak.
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Post by The answers on Apr 24, 2006 6:50:16 GMT -5
You asked..
"Why is it such a big deal that I married a girl that isn't a member?
Why do I always feel out of place when I go to the meetings?
Why is it that the all people ever hear about me is the stupid things that I've done? (remember the interesting experiences? so do MOST of the friends I've encountered) "
The answer is "because you live in USA".
You would find different responses in other countries.
The early workers to USA decided to hide the history of the group, promote what they called the living witness doctrine, and form an exclusive club.
This in other countries are far from perfect, but didn't do (largely) the above.
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