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Post by monica on Aug 24, 2007 16:00:15 GMT -5
My parents always said that there are good men in the world and good men in truth. There are bad men in the world, and bad men in truth. And if I should meet and marry someone not professing that they would be okay with this. I am lucky. A little further down I have a question for any 27-38yr olds...
There was a guy coming to my Sunday meeting for awhile. His professing girlfriend went to her own meeting 30 minutes away. I got to know him fairly well and took his calls when she ended the relationship. What happened? Her parents told him that he couldn't date their daughter any longer unless he hurried up and made his choice. She broke up with him becuase he wasn't "sure" and wasn't "ready". I felt bad for both of them that this happened. And I feel lucky that my parents are more open about such things.
I am in my mid to late twenties. I have a good job, and I am well travelled. My best boyfriends were not professing. Meaning the guys who I cared for and respected most of my relationships were not part of the way. My last boyfriend was a well travelled successful guy in his early thirites from another country. We shared similar values even though he was from another culture. Sometimes I struggle with explaining truth and its' "traditions" and "customs" in a relationship with someone who wasn't raised the same.
I would be interested in getting to know(not exactly romatically) any men out there who were raised in truth, are successful, live in urban areas, and have a global perspective and perhaps maybe want to marry or date someone professing becuase of the shared values and upbringing but who deep down maybe only sit on the sidelines of truth. I have a very strong faith and values, but when it comes to the way itself I have my doubts.
I am sure there has to be a couple of you out there!!! ;-)
If so, I would love to get to know you better. My email is monicamehta2007@hotmail.com(my alias of course)
Thanks! M
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Post by wingsofaneagle on Aug 24, 2007 16:07:28 GMT -5
Maybe you should post this in the "singles" thread on the "worldly" board?
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Post by monica on Aug 24, 2007 16:11:08 GMT -5
I wasn't even aware;-) Thanks!
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Post by Brad Lewis on Aug 25, 2007 1:54:18 GMT -5
My parents always said that there are good men in the world and good men in truth. There are bad men in the world, and bad men in truth. And if I should meet and marry someone not professing that they would be okay with this. I am lucky. A little further down I have a question for any 27-38yr olds... There was a guy coming to my Sunday meeting for awhile. His professing girlfriend went to her own meeting 30 minutes away. I got to know him fairly well and took his calls when she ended the relationship. What happened? Her parents told him that he couldn't date their daughter any longer unless he hurried up and made his choice. She broke up with him becuase he wasn't "sure" and wasn't "ready". I felt bad for both of them that this happened. And I feel lucky that my parents are more open about such things. I am in my mid to late twenties. I have a good job, and I am well travelled. My best boyfriends were not professing. Meaning the guys who I cared for and respected most of my relationships were not part of the way. My last boyfriend was a well travelled successful guy in his early thirites from another country. We shared similar values even though he was from another culture. Sometimes I struggle with explaining truth and its' "traditions" and "customs" in a relationship with someone who wasn't raised the same. I would be interested in getting to know(not exactly romatically) any men out there who were raised in truth, are successful, live in urban areas, and have a global perspective and perhaps maybe want to marry or date someone professing becuase of the shared values and upbringing but who deep down maybe only sit on the sidelines of truth. I have a very strong faith and values, but when it comes to the way itself I have my doubts. I am sure there has to be a couple of you out there!!! ;-) If so, I would love to get to know you better. My email is monicamehta2007@hotmail.com(my alias of course) Thanks! M How can someone be bad if they are in the truth? How can you be wrong if you're in the right? No wonder kids get confused and leave the cult when they're older. A good remedy for 2x2 nonsense: lots of questions. Boggles them. And say "Praise the Lord", they'll flinch, cringe and avoid you. Brad
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Post by Bridger on Aug 25, 2007 5:02:40 GMT -5
The "truth" does tend to cultivate a certain type of person. I also understand you wanting to find someone who has the same background as you. Many might disagree with me but the Methodist and Presbyterians and even many baptist churches might be close to your background. I have found that I tend to be drawn more to fundamental people, regardless of their background. One person I ran across lately has a son my son's age and studied to be a franciscan priest, another I jived with was the son of an Episcopal Priest. Another a music director and elementary school teacher. Note these were all just friends but most relationships start with friendships. Take your time and enjoy your dates. Do you sing? Does your church have a singles club? Many large churches do....look for a larger church as they offer more services in the single department. I myself am happily married. But posting this add was sure a smart move. Peace be with you. May God bless your efforts and honesty.
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Post by Bridger on Aug 25, 2007 5:25:07 GMT -5
Another little tip, take him around animals. How he treats them might be an indication of how he will treat you after you are married.
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Post by nitro on Aug 25, 2007 6:42:06 GMT -5
Another little tip, take him around animals. How he treats them might be an indication of how he will treat you after you are married. Ya if he don't cry at the end of "Old Yeller" don't marry him. Link to End-- www.youtube.com/watch?v=S1g7bYgc_ek
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Post by dotberry on Aug 25, 2007 12:15:23 GMT -5
What, take him around animals? My mother taught me you can judge a man as good husband material if he's kind to his mother.
I married a man that brought his mom with him on his first visit to see me, yep he was was kind to her.
Come to think of it that's been over 61 years ago and I'm still married to him. Of course there's this thing called love that must be taken into consideration!
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Post by Tellie Tubby on Aug 25, 2007 18:26:54 GMT -5
Monica. I was like this boy you mentioned except I was professing. I liked a girl in the US, my first real relationship, she liked me very much. After a year her mother told me I was not good enough for her perfect daughter and told me not to write to her daughter again.
The most professing boys/girls turns out to be controlling freek parents.
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Post by wanttobewithGod on Aug 25, 2007 21:29:20 GMT -5
Awww that's nice dotberry. M.
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Post by My advice on Aug 25, 2007 23:41:48 GMT -5
My advice would be to look for, in a mate, someone who truly loves Jesus and wants to live for that. It doesnt matter where you go to church as long as you have a personalist relationship with Christ. It's scary to me that people say they want to stay within the "truth" because we are all God's children and Gods perfect choice for you could be baptist, pentecostal, or non-denominational. You never know. I married the love of my life and he was b&r in meetings and Im baptist. We worked out just fine and you will too. So just follow your heart.
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Post by wingsofaneagle on Aug 26, 2007 15:40:08 GMT -5
I couldn't help but think of this post as my pastor was speaking this morning about Solomon's "foreign women"! He talked in length about being "unequally yoked" and that was Solomon's downfall. His weakness was women (700 wives and 300 concubines... no kidding right?) but unfortunately they worshiped other gods and not his. The pastor said the first wrong move he made was to allow it in his house. After that his conscience became "seared" and he no longer saw anything wrong with it. Satan knows our weak spot(s). He did mention Superman and Kyptonite! Also Achilles heel. Anyway, the point is that it is so much easier to be yolked with someone who believes in what we believe. Its important that you can have fellowship together. Encourage each other in the Lord. Enjoy the fruits of the spirit together. Pray together. Read the bible together. He also had a warning for the young people to be careful about choosing their friends lest they be enticed to do ungodly things. I thought it was a very good lesson. My 15 yr old perked up when he started talking about "lady" gods and how poor Solomon must have been worn out with 1000 wives!!!! Personally I think poor Solomon just went out of his mind..... what man in his RIGHT mind can handle even ONE woman? ? ROFL ;D ;D
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Post by wingsofaneagle on Aug 26, 2007 15:40:56 GMT -5
emmm "sleeper" gods is not what i typed. But im sure you can figure out what I intended!!!
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Post by Brick on Aug 26, 2007 21:05:08 GMT -5
Another little tip, take him around animals. How he treats them might be an indication of how he will treat you after you are married. But if he lookes at the horse's teeth the way he looks at you when you smile...
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Post by To Wings on Aug 26, 2007 21:15:24 GMT -5
emmm "sleeper" gods is not what i typed. But im sure you can figure out what I intended!!! Wings, I can't figure out what you meant. It will be obvious later, but for now can you just spell it out? To get around the crazy word zapper you can put double spaces or dashes like this........"t-h-a-n-k---y-o-u---w-i-n-g-s-!"
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Post by wingsofaneagle on Aug 26, 2007 21:26:24 GMT -5
emmm "sleeper" gods is not what i typed. But im sure you can figure out what I intended!!! Wings, I can't figure out what you meant. It will be obvious later, but for now can you just spell it out? To get around the crazy word zapper you can put double spaces or dashes like this........"t-h-a-n-k---y-o-u---w-i-n-g-s-!" w-h-o-r-e gods!
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Post by Interesting on Aug 26, 2007 21:38:40 GMT -5
Wings, I can't figure out what you meant. It will be obvious later, but for now can you just spell it out? To get around the crazy word zapper you can put double spaces or dashes like this........"t-h-a-n-k---y-o-u---w-i-n-g-s-!" w-h-o-r-e gods! Ahhh! They did not get close on their substitution, I don't feel stupid. Heres a funny one.........SPOON the offensive word was "S_P_O_O_N" gad zueks eh?
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Post by wingsofaneagle on Aug 26, 2007 21:40:09 GMT -5
whats bad about s-p-o-o-n?
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Post by I wonder too on Aug 26, 2007 21:54:15 GMT -5
whats bad about s-p-o-o-n? I don't know, and that okay. Let try F_A_R_T FART
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