Some guide line on CSA and behave in the friends homes May 5, 2019 14:29:47 GMT -5 ipsedixit likes this
Post by nathan on May 5, 2019 14:29:47 GMT -5
EMERGENCY MEASURES WITH POSSIBLE PERMANENT IMPLEMENTATION.
1) Workers must not except in unavoidable circumstances reside in the homes where there are unrelated children or other recognized vulnerable persons staying. Any occasion where it is necessary to stay in homes where such persons reside MUST be reported to and sanctioned by the overseer.
2) Workers who are alone must not stay in the homes where there are single people of the opposite sex.
3) Workers must not frequent or stay overnight in the homes of the Friends whilst the husband or wife of a friend may be absent. A degree of license can be exercised for short visits during the day time etc., where this can be justified.
4) Workers must not be left alone for lengthy periods of time with children. There must be a minimum of two workers present, or at least one other adult. A lengthy period may be defined from the circumstances and in which it can be perceived a risk exists.
5) Workers must as far as possible be provided with separate bedrooms. Where this is not possible and a room is shared, then they must be provided with separate beds. The practice of bed sharing must be allowed except in very extreme cases.
6) Workers must report to the overseer any suspicions of inappropriate behavior by any fellow worker, companion or friend. If any matter of a criminal nature is suspected then steps must be taken to ensure the matter is being reported by someone appropriate to the relevant authorities.
THE FOLLOWING SHOULD BE CONSIDERED FOR FUTURE IMPLEMENTATION
7) Workers should maintain a daily diary in which they record the homes and other places they stay along with any companions. Also, any problems of note encountered must be recorded in the diary.
8) In cases of suspected criminal matters of inappropriate behavior, a relevant entry stating who was contacted and when, must be entered in the diary.
9) Friends MUST be encouraged to report to the overseer any inappropriate behavior shown by a worker. They must also be encouraged if any matters of a criminal nature come to light, they must report the matter to the police or other competent authority.
10) All diaries MUST be handed over to the overseer at a convenient time in the workers’ calendar, e.g. convention time, or when a person leaves the work, or goes abroad, etc. It will be the responsibility of the overseer to issue diaries to the workers in his field.
11) The overseer MUST make provision for retaining these diaries (which can be electronic or conventional) for a period of not less than ten years. The diaries will be invaluable, at least for this period of time, as sources of reference and most particularly in assisting with any future investigations into improper conduct.
12) Overseers MUST make random contact to a number of the members of the laity in his field to ensure everything is okay from a friends’ perspective, during the mission term and/or once the previous year’s diaries have been submitted. Friends must be put at their ease and given the confidence to report any untoward matters.
The workers have brought the real world into the homes of the friends through the abusive behaviors of a few. They have devastated the trust placed/misplaced in them by the victims and their families as well as fellow workers. It is now time for the workers to join the real world and implement the foregoing or similar controls in order that the “worldly” tendencies within their ranks are strictly controlled.
In preparing the foregoing every attempt has been made as far as is reasonable to preserve the operation of the current worker environment against the primary considerations of protecting children and other vulnerable persons. As this includes workers themselves it is believed that many workers would welcome many of these suggestions even for their own personal comfort and protection. These suggestions are not meant to replace any education programs or reporting procedures, but are to be viewed as a foundation upon which these matters should be founded.
2) Someone wrote: This is addressed in the worker guidelines actually as far as acceptable behavior so. (It could fall under your idea of educating everyone about abuse issues)
Examples of INAPPROPRIATE contact/behavior, includes but is not limited to the following:
• Kisses on the mouth
• Inappropriate or lengthy hugs or embraces
• Holding minors, above the approximate age of 5, on one's lap
• Touching buttocks, genital areas, breasts, knees, thighs or legs
• Showing physical displays of affection in isolated areas of the premises such as
bedrooms, closets, bathrooms, or other private areas of a home
• Sharing a room or bed with a minor or youth.
• Going for a walk alone with a minor or youth.
• Spending time in a minor or youth s bedroom
• Informal wrestling with minors or youths except for legitimate sports coaching, in
which case another adult would be present.
• Tickling and piggyback rides
• Any type of non-professional massage given by an adult to a minor or youth.
• Any display of unwanted affection towards a minor or youth.
• Remarks that include compliments relating to sexual attractiveness or sexual development
• Lifting a child off the ground without parental consent.
Some feel that the appropriate age would actually be 2 for workers to be holding kids on their laps. There is also a list for APPROPRIATE touching/interaction with kids.
There is a lot of good information in those guidelines for both the workers and families. It would be nice for everyone to know what should be expected when workers are around families, as it protects the workers AND the kids. When people understand established boundaries, it makes interaction a lot easier. Parents would know that they shouldn't place workers into certain situations, and the workers would know that they have some rules which both they and the families they are around need to follow.
The following also needs to be added to this list (evidently):
1) no molesting kids
2) no molesting adults
3) whistle-blowers are to be encouraged with NO punishment attached to honestly bringing forth concerns.
4) do not shun whistle blowers
5) do not remove from the work any worker that is a whistle blower