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Post by Bozo on Jun 24, 2006 16:55:43 GMT -5
What advice did the Servants of God give you concerning rearing children in the home? Discipline? Teaching them to deny themselves? Quietness in the home? How they should be dressed?
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Post by like it on Jun 24, 2006 17:03:32 GMT -5
none, most of what we did with our kids was our own ideas.
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Post by Open eyes on Jun 24, 2006 21:07:51 GMT -5
Where is the love? My daughter dressed up for prom. The look of disapproval was evident. Not a word was said about her attire. She looked beautiful to me.
Where is the love? Spent on those coming to gospel meetings and fawning over them to win them over. I'm not bitter. These are just true life experiences that maybe some have been blessed not to have to endure. None of us are perfect but kindness goes a long way. I would like to be more kind and understand they too have their standards to live up too even if it is to the misunderstanding of others.
Maybe they didn't understand why my professing daughter was dressed up in that way. But I know her heart and it is beautiful. Teenage years are an exciting, confusing time and she wasn't convicted so Happy is the man (teenager) who convicted himself not in the thing which he alloweth. Not quite quoted right but you get my drift. Love and peace.
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Post by justamom on Jun 25, 2006 12:42:59 GMT -5
I don't feel that I needed the workers to tell me how to raise my kids.....I feel I did a fairly good job raising my daughter.....she is loving, kind and accepting of others....
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Post by Terry on Jun 25, 2006 13:02:39 GMT -5
Where is the love? My daughter dressed up for prom. The look of disapproval was evident. Not a word was said about her attire. She looked beautiful to me. Where is the love? Spent on those coming to gospel meetings and fawning over them to win them over. I'm not bitter. These are just true life experiences that maybe some have been blessed not to have to endure. None of us are perfect but kindness goes a long way. I would like to be more kind and understand they too have their standards to live up too even if it is to the misunderstanding of others. Maybe they didn't understand why my professing daughter was dressed up in that way. But I know her heart and it is beautiful. Teenage years are an exciting, confusing time and she wasn't convicted so Happy is the man (teenager) who convicted himself not in the thing which he alloweth. Not quite quoted right but you get my drift. Love and peace. I'm glad you let your daughter go. I spent prom night both my junior and senior years eating popcorn at home with my parents--sibling in the work said no--so that was that. I've really enjoyed seeing my kids enjoy prom and all the events of high school. I really regret being denied that part of growing up.
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Post by lilwolfmisty on Jun 26, 2006 14:57:41 GMT -5
I did not let the workers tell me how to raise my kids, but whenever one would cry in meeting the looks of disapproval were very real! My parents however, listened to the dress laws and the no dance rules to my great embarassment. I was made to wear a dress everyday until I came home crying sevral weeks in a row and a female cousin who was professing took it upon herself to tell my dad that I should not be wearing dresses as the boys were flipping them up to see my underware. Thank God for that! I couldn't even be in a play, I was however allowed to be on the make up crew which was funny cuz I knew NOTHING about make up. I was not allowed to wear jewlery only a tasteful pin ( I had one grandma that would have loved to give me all kinds of jewlery, but I never was allowed to accept it). I was not allowed to watch TV until my mom left the truth when I was 15. That was embarassing too. I was not allowed to go to dances, the only place I was allowed to dance was in PE class and that was because again my cousin stepped in and explained to my dad exactly how bad it would be for me if I was not allowed to do that. I so regret not ever being able to go to dances and by the time I was living with my mom I was too embarassed to go, because I didnt' know how to dance already. Someday I will learn how to dance for real
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Post by vagabond on Jun 27, 2006 17:07:55 GMT -5
Someday I am going to learn to dance too! And then I will dance like no one is watching
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Post by newleaf on Jun 27, 2006 19:13:15 GMT -5
No school dances for me either, gals! But there is hope-with the popularity of the new ballroom dance competition TV shows there are several places in our area offering ballroom dance lessons. Watch your local newspapers they may be doing them where you live.
I have agreed to let my 17 year old son attend his military balls and the junior-senior prom and once he saw the immature social side of it, it was not a big deal, he saw what he wasn't missing. It was pretty neat to attend his first JROTC military ball as a chaperone with the unit and be able to dance (the two-step) for the first time at age 39.
He was totally unimpressed with the modern way of "non-dancing' or group dancing but said he would like to learn true ball room dancing and the tango so when he joins the Navy he can dance all over the world.
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Post by very little on Jun 27, 2006 20:44:17 GMT -5
I honestly do not recall what...if anything... the workers told my parents as to how I was to be raised. I only recall that after I became a young (non-professing) adult, that David Woods told mom & dad that my drinking should not be tolerated while I lived upon their property (I lived in a little travel trailer parked in my parent's yard at the time).
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Post by prom on Jun 27, 2006 21:32:11 GMT -5
Being a current teacher, I can report from personal experience that the current "friends" do go to the prom. We have even had "friends" parents who chaperon the prom. Some dance and some do not dance as with all the students. They come "all decked out" and look great. The no prom rule must be over or maybe there was never a no prom rule as I went to the prom in 1961 and was 4th generation professing.
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Post by Terry on Jun 28, 2006 11:03:33 GMT -5
I wasn't allowed to go in 65 or 66 in Michigan
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Post by roberta on Jun 28, 2006 12:29:02 GMT -5
what is a "prom" that you're not allowed, or allowed to go to?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2006 8:09:19 GMT -5
Some older workers believed children should have chores around the house. Doyle Copland was telling about a mother asking her son to take out the trash. The boy said "Do I have to". Mother took out trash. Doyle said he would love to get his hands on that boy! Convention crowd roared. He said "maybe that is why I am not a parent!"
Bottom line: Old Victorian ideas from Ireland rear their heads in "the truth!"
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jun 29, 2006 13:58:54 GMT -5
Prom is a dance for Junior and Senior students in Highschool. It's a really big deal here in the states. I didn't go to one, not because I wasn't allowed, but rather because I'd rather have spent the money on something else. My brother went to his proms and was invited to other schools proms as well.
My parents followed the workers advice some of the time. I was later told they regretted not allowing my sibling and I to get involved in sports (when they finally did allow, it was too late as everyone was way ahead of our skill).
I believe in raising my children with love, compassion, faith... People can lend their advice, but I don't have to take it.
(Also, here... children making a peep in meetings is just not acceptable. Sometimes I want to reach out and slap the people who think I should be spanking my child for every little noise. It is they, not my child, who deserves the swat.)
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Post by recentarriver on Jun 29, 2006 16:42:07 GMT -5
Looking back to my teen years, it is amazing that my parents let me participate in all the things I did...one prom, many musicals and school plays,etc. I decided to call my Mom and ask why I was allowed to do all these things, especially considering the fact that mtg was in our home, we took care of worker mail, had worker storage area, etc.(my Mom knows nothing of the truth about the Truth and is a faithful defender of it).Her answer was very shocking to me...my parents knew what the workers would advise so they just didn't ask or mention it to them. Very liberal for the 60s in a northern state. I did get called on the carpet several times tho but didn't let my parents know. My most common offense according to the worker correction I received was my hair. (too high up on my head..the bun shouldn't be seen from the front.) Too bad to have spent so much time and worry on things that have nothing to do with my salvation.
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Post by too bad on Jul 1, 2006 7:51:27 GMT -5
Too bad to have spent so much time and worry on things that have nothing to do with my salvation. **How true. AMEN!
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jul 1, 2006 8:49:45 GMT -5
How interesting RecentArriver!
I know that my parents, at times, feared they would lose their meeting (which they had one every Sunday and many Wednesdays), because of me. Nevermind that I hadn't done anything wrong (my brother was the crazy one, but I guess it was acceptable in everyone's eyes). The workers assured my parents they were in no danger. I think they saw that #1, I hadn't done anything wrong and, #2, it was those gossipers who started the rumors who should have had meeting taken out of their homes.
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Post by bowhunter on Jul 6, 2006 19:13:20 GMT -5
What advice did the Servants of God give you concerning rearing children in the home? Discipline? Teaching them to deny themselves? Quietness in the home? How they should be dressed? The only input we got was that it was absolutely wrong to homeschool our children. That advice was totally unsolicited and completely ignored!
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Post by Hmmmmmmmmmmm on Jul 6, 2006 20:11:59 GMT -5
The only input we got was that it was absolutely wrong to homeschool our children. That advice was totally unsolicited and completely ignored! Interesting......... We got the same unsolicited advice from one worker and exactly the opposite from another just months earlier.
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