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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jul 20, 2007 23:27:15 GMT -5
Eh? Are you in the right topic?
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Post by TMS on Jul 20, 2007 23:27:55 GMT -5
I know, for those who have a tight budget $50 is a lot, I have seen both sides of the spectrum, but if you dont have the $$$ then dont go out to eat...when we are broke, or in between checks, I dont even buy anything except milk for the baby. But when we have $$$ which is normal, I normally spend $50 for my husband and I to go out for dinner, and more with friends because we open a bottle of wine or whatever. Anyways if they were not professing, then then everyone should of paid your own way, I agree...esp since there was an extra person along, I don't think the guy should of had to pay for the workers PLUS the extra person. That is just not good manners.
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Post by ann on Jul 21, 2007 0:14:03 GMT -5
Since when has most any worker have good manners? I would have gotten up and left him there with the check.
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jul 21, 2007 10:05:28 GMT -5
Out of humor, I wonder what would have happened if you would have excused yourself to the bathroom, and never returned to pay the check.
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Post by jh62 on Jul 21, 2007 10:20:50 GMT -5
It's really not about the amount. It doesn't matter if it's expensive or not. It's about manners and etiquette, which appparently the worker ignored.
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Post by sameasyesterday on Jul 21, 2007 10:54:55 GMT -5
It's really not about the amount. It doesn't matter if it's expensive or not. It's about manners and etiquette, which appparently the worker ignored. You are so right. However, I thought they would not take money for exes. I didn't have the money and had to use a credit card. I am a single mom.
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Post by Stefan on Jul 21, 2007 10:55:52 GMT -5
Sounds like really poor communication.
If it happened like you said it did, you would not have been wrong to lay down your share of the meal and nothing else.
I have been to lunch with workers 3 or 4 times. When I did the inviting, I paid. When they initiated, they paid.
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jul 21, 2007 12:42:14 GMT -5
I wonder why the waiter/ress didn't ask if the check was split? I notice most ask these days.
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Post by happy on Jul 21, 2007 13:32:34 GMT -5
It is difficult to believe anyone handing the bill to another! Especially if you were the one invited. I think I would have put my "$10" to pay for my meal and tip on the bill and passed it on to the next person. Maybe made a comment about how we forgot to ask fo separate checks. Happy
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Post by shockingthough on Jul 22, 2007 17:15:53 GMT -5
I am an ex, but was invited to lunch by the workers. I decided to go and they picked out a special place to take me. It was quite expensive. Also, they decided to invite another friend along. We had a fair visit, but when the waiter came with the bill, he handed it to the older worker. In return, the older worker handed it to me. I was in shock, and still am. Did the worker do wrong by handing me that huge bill? Sameasyesterday, It is absolutely shocking to read this. Even after knowing the kind of self-righteous people most workers are, I would have thought they would be a bit more self-respecting. $50.00 is a lot of money for anybody to pay when hit unexpectedly.
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Post by jumping to ignorance on Jul 22, 2007 18:21:07 GMT -5
Even after knowing the kind of self-righteous people most workers are, I would have thought they would be a bit more self-respecting. Here we go again painting with the broad brush. You don't know most workers. How can you say that "most of them" are self-righteous? Obviously, we either have one rude worker or poor communication in this situation. These extrapolations based on one experience are pure ignorance.
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Post by hanging out with workers on Jul 23, 2007 11:10:52 GMT -5
I have always paid when out with the workers. I have heard stories of them taking people out but there were always special circumstances involved. Ie trying to get them to profess or go out into the work. If the meeting is disciplinary in nature the workers will pay. Newbies who don't understand etc. I have always believed that if you dine with them, you pay. I have never even seen one reach for their wallet. This is not like taking a cash offering in their mind they will take a meal from anyone.
Iusually if they invite another person they will clear it with the host first. Can we invite John along?
Also the cost of food cost of living is different in many places. An amount that would be a cheap dinner in california may be considered excessive to a single mom in a rural area.
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Post by never say always on Jul 23, 2007 11:20:57 GMT -5
I have heard stories of them taking people out but there were always special circumstances involved. Sure are a lot of "always" and "never" in posts lately. I have heard the workers pay many times. Sometimes it is when they take someone out for lunch who is rather poor. Sometimes it is because they initiated the invitation for lunch. Sometimes it is because they just want to take someone to lunch.
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Post by shockinthough on Jul 23, 2007 14:56:59 GMT -5
Even after knowing the kind of self-righteous people most workers are, I would have thought they would be a bit more self-respecting. Here we go again painting with the broad brush. You don't know most workers. How can you say that "most of them" are self-righteous? Obviously, we either have one rude worker or poor communication in this situation. These extrapolations based on one experience are pure ignorance. Jumping to ignorance, Yes, I should have added "most workers I know", and it wasn't ignorance as You jumped to conclude, it was carelessness from my side.
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Post by I am wondering on Jul 23, 2007 16:19:15 GMT -5
Were you eating out with the workers or just out to lunch.
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Post by same as yesterday on Jul 23, 2007 16:52:37 GMT -5
Just lunch and by the way, no one offered a tip, so I left that, too. The bill was a little over $50.00, but still, I was really not able to pay that. It took money from my family.
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Post by the bill on Jul 23, 2007 21:31:13 GMT -5
If someone invited me out for food and then gave me the bill I would be horrified, whether it was $10 or $50. If a friend did that to me I would wonder if they were truly a friend how much more a worker especially if I was an ex.
Surely if a person invites someone out they would discuss who would pay the bill. If a worker tries on a dress would she had you the bill? I for one am shocked by their behavior of asking someone out eating the food and then giving me the bill. That to me is a user. Invite me out to pay for their food. If I offered then that would be a different thing. How many of you have done such a thing?
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Post by GuestS on Jul 24, 2007 9:15:46 GMT -5
I didn't figure the workers would EVER pay for a meal. I thought they were "penniless." Don't you know it was your "privilege" to be handed the bill??? [so they'd say] What spirit-led person would invite someone to lunch and then hand THEM the bill??? HOW rude!
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Post by freespirit on Jul 24, 2007 18:15:08 GMT -5
Just lunch and by the way, no one offered a tip, so I left that, too. The bill was a little over $50.00, but still, I was really not able to pay that. It took money from my family. I am really sorry that happened. It sounds like poor manners to me. If you PM me and send me the bill, I'll pay it. peace to all, freespirit
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Post by Anonymous on Jul 24, 2007 18:34:56 GMT -5
I am really sorry that happened. It sounds like poor manners to me. If you PM me and send me the bill, I'll pay it. peace to all, freespirit Better would be, freespirit, if you learned the worker's name and had a visit with him.
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Post by Bump on Jul 26, 2007 3:08:15 GMT -5
Bump
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