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Post by Better question on Jul 29, 2007 10:37:37 GMT -5
How many of you think that taking a child out of meeting because he/she won't be quiet and spanking them is a good way to handle the situation? (considering this child is between the age of 1-3 years old) I think a better question to ask would be: Is it reasonable for a parent to expect and demand their 1-3 year old child sit still and be quiet in meeting and punish them if they do not? This really goes beyond spanking to ask whether it is reasonable to expect a child to sit still and quiet for 1-2.5 hours.
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Post by withopeneyes (Mandy) on Jul 29, 2007 13:53:36 GMT -5
Definitely not reasonable. I feel that too many people expect their infants and toddlers to behave a certain way which they are not capable of. Sure, some kids sit quietly, but it's more due to their personality than to the discipline or punishment they receive if they don't.
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Post by Guest today on Jul 29, 2007 19:43:44 GMT -5
Thanks for your honest responses. I happen to agree with both of you! I think it has to do with personality and punishing a child for not being able to sit still and be quiet as a toddler is ridiculous. I have a very spirited child and taking my child to meetings was way too stressful.
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Post by Civilized Mom on Jul 29, 2007 22:25:58 GMT -5
I can't understand why anyone would spank their child. I have three boys 16, 15, and 11. They are wonderful boys and well on their way to becoming wonderful, well-adjusted adults.
I did spank the oldest once and felt terrible about it for a long time afterwords. I have never spanked the other two. As far as I'm concerned, love is the only way to raise a child and there is nothing kind about spanking.
I can identify with the experiences of temper tantrums though. My boys have thrown some real doozies. The worst came when my oldest, who had already thrown a few temper tantrums in public, began spitting on complete strangers standing by. He did it three times. I was mortified. That's when I knew I had a problem. Family counseling was a tremendous help. Eventually, the doctor recommended medication for his mood-swings and outbursts. I was reluctant at first, but after getting a second opinion I decided to give it a try. I couldn't be happier with the results. Unfortunately, my other two boys picked up the same habit and basically the solution was the same.
I can't say enough good things about parenting in a civilized manner. Spanking is so barbaric. I recommend family counseling with a good Christian counselor anytime I see someone having trouble.
Peace and Love!
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Post by speechless on Jul 30, 2007 21:53:40 GMT -5
Let me get this straight "Civilized" Mom.
Are you saying that now, in order to get your three boys to behave appropriately in public, you drug all three of them, and this is civilized?
I.............................don't know what to say.
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Post by spanking or drugs on Jul 31, 2007 0:17:00 GMT -5
I dunno... what came first - paddling kids' rears for being bad or ingesting chemicals for mood alteration?
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