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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 16:54:29 GMT -5
haha...you need to keep up with your latest science news. You are behind the time curly. Throw away your needles. It doesn't mention them in the bible. ** When was the last time you read your Bible? Jesus said it is easier for a camel go through the eye of the needle than a rich man to enter heaven.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 17:05:14 GMT -5
Throw away your needles. It doesn't mention them in the bible. ** When was the last time you read your Bible? Jesus said it is easier for a camel go through the eye of the needle than a rich man to enter heaven. I do not read very much fiction.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 17:18:29 GMT -5
** When was the last time you read your Bible? Jesus said it is easier for a camel go through the eye of the needle than a rich man to enter heaven. I do not read very much fiction. ** I can tell... The eye of the needle mentioned in the bible and you didn't know about it, Curly.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 17:21:13 GMT -5
** When was the last time you read your Bible? Jesus said it is easier for a camel go through the eye of the needle than a rich man to enter heaven. I do not read very much fiction. ** I can tell... The eye of the needle mentioned in the bible and you didn't know about it, Curly. You need to stick with your changing science and not to discuss the Bible scriptures, you are too rusty for it.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 17:29:39 GMT -5
I do not read very much fiction. ** I can tell... The eye of the needle mentioned in the bible and you didn't know about it, Curly. You need to stick with your changing science and not to discuss the Bible scriptures, you are too rusty for it. Well then, you use the eye of the needle to cope with your diabetes and you will soon be feeding the worms.
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Post by guest8 on Jul 19, 2021 17:40:32 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2021 17:43:20 GMT -5
tough love gets used on adults too...nice try though... I'm aware that "Tough love" is also used on adults and it does not work any better on adults than on children! ...(niced try though) 7 Reasons Why The Concept Of Tough Love Does More Harm Than Good Suruchi Patwary , 20 Aug 2020 What is tough love? Google defines it as ‘an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run’.
Now, this type of behaviour might sound familiar to many of us. Some of us might have experienced tough love coming from our parents, teachers, a boss at work, or even our romantic partners.
Tough love is generally used in parenting or dealing with addicts. But of course, it is very much present in relationships too and in this article, we’ll be talking about it in the context of romantic relationships.
We got in touch with Ms. Anagha Bhave, a psychologist who is an alumna of St. Xaviers College, Columbia University, New York to help us understand the concept of tough love better.
She broke down the negative effects of tough love when practiced in a relationship and explained how tough love ranges from mild to severe.
Anagha says that while a certain degree of tough love is important because it can positively influence the relationship like reminding the other person of your self worth or setting clear boundaries—two important factors for a healthy relationship.
However, she also emphasised on how tough can have negative effects when practiced excessively. Below are the six main reasons why tough love does more harm than good.
1. Incapable Of Learning Many times, the practice of tough love reveals that a person uses it because they assume their partner is incapable of learning by showing soft love or affection. They assume that is the only way to make their partner understand something and that being ‘soft’ with them won’t help them learn.
2. Humiliating & Demeaning As mentioned earlier, when it is used to a certain degree, it can be healthy. But when tough love is used in extreme, it can be very humiliating and demeaning for the person at the receiving end of it. Being treated in a ‘tough’ way in public, or a social gathering, or even if front of friends and family can feel insulting, especially when the other person is your partner.
3. Inability To Be Patient & Kind This type of behaviour actually doesn’t say more about the person receiving it but it says about the person doing it. Anagha strongly believes that tough love reflects on the person’s own inability to be patient and kind with their partner. Treating your partner with kindness and being patient with them are important factors for a happy, healthy relationship.
4. Create Shame & Guilt Constant and excessive use of tough love is more likely to create shame and guilt in the mind of the person receiving it. And these two emotions, especially, do not promote healthy self-growth. Being in a constant state of mind of shame and guilt can harm a person’s mental peace.
5. Make Love Seem Conditional
In a healthy relationship, love should come across as unconditional. And excessive tough love can make love seem unconditional, which is very unhealthy in the long run. Making your partner feel that they have to be a certain way to feel loved by you is not a healthy way to go about in a relationship.
6. Increase Stress Apart from the shame, guilt, and humiliation, tough love can also increase stress for the person receiving it. And too much stress or anxiety in a relationship can push a person to adopt unhealthy coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol, etc.
7. Poor Empathy Most importantly, excessive tough love showcases poor empathy! Empathy is very important in a relationship and so if you’re somebody who adopts tough love and excessively so, it probably shows that you’re not really able to understand and share your partner’s emotions. It also shows that you’re too preoccupied with how you feel.
5 reasons for tough love.Tough love is one of the hardest things to implement because it generally leaves our conscience asking questions of whether we are exhibiting this method of love for the recipient or for other reasons. It is a necessary act that constantly needs to justify itself and most times we cannot wait for it to end to show the recipient that we truly care even though our actions were for their benefit. Below are some of the reasons for tough love that appease our conscience. 1. What happens without tough love Loving some one is not just about giving them what they want or being loyal to their needs. Loving someone is also being able to correct them and tell them the truth. We should not go out of our way to hurt each other but without this form of affection real love cannot exist. If we lie to one another and stop ourselves from correcting each other for all the right reasons as we see it then we are bringing disaster to our doors. Eventually when the truth is revealed as is always the case it will be harder to accept. Without tough love all relationships are based on a weak and pretentious foundation that is waiting to crumble under any amount of pressure. 2. End justifies the means Implementing tough love is about having faith in the end result. This is not about the beginning but mainly about the end result. This is one case where the end should always justify the means. It cannot be implemented unless we realize that without it there could be no change and no results. If we really wish to make the difference in each others lives then we must implement tough love at certain times. 3. Perspective of love Love is generally blind and can lead to disaster if it is not checked time and again to ensure that the blindness is righteous. Our love for God can be blind because it is a righteous love that could never lead us into trouble. Our love for each other can also be blind as long as it does not hurt us or anyone else. However God is all good and there is no wrong in God which means that when we love God the only outcome that could exist is a righteous one. Human beings on the other hand are imperfect. For this reason if we love each other blindly there are going to be times when we would be led down a path of evil. It is at these times when tough love is necessary. Whether it is in the smallest of things that is wrong we need perspective or it could eventually grow into something much worse. 4. Who we are Tough love is another way of also letting us learn about each other. If we lie to one another then we would never get to know our true selves. Tough love is character building and can lead to a whole and complete love when the recipient and the giver overcome the first obstacles of it. It generally leads to a greater understanding between the recipient and the giver and most times strengthens their relationship. 5. Growth and development Tough love is another means of growing in wisdom and better understanding. The recipient learns from the giver and the giver in turn learns from the recipient. Every time we are implementing tough love for all the right reasons we are also teaching ourselves something new. We learn our limits, our strengths, our emotional capabilities of endurance and take on a level of maturity and seniority. We become parent with the need to see improvement in another individual or a situation. The recipient also learns about us, learns to control their emotions and learns to get past the obstacles of blind love. The recipient learns that we would do what it takes to make things better even at the cost of losing them. They learn about our integrity and true character. Leslie Musoko Article Source: EzineArticles.com/4535213
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Post by Annan on Jul 19, 2021 17:46:04 GMT -5
Throw away your needles. It doesn't mention them in the bible. ** When was the last time you read your Bible? Jesus said it is easier for a camel go through the eye of the needle than a rich man to enter heaven. I’m sure you know that the eye of the needle was an entrance into the cities that was used when the main gate was closed. It was a low passage gate requiring camels to get down on their knees to get through the gate. Hard but not impossible.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 17:51:32 GMT -5
** I can tell... The eye of the needle mentioned in the bible and you didn't know about it, Curly. You need to stick with your changing science and not to discuss the Bible scriptures, you are too rusty for it. Well then, you use the eye of the needle to cope with your diabetes and you will soon be feeding the worms. ** Curly, don't quit your day job, you need to read your Bible so, you KNOW what you are talking about when it comes to the Bible.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2021 17:52:27 GMT -5
I'm aware that is also used on adults and it works does not work any better on adults than on children 7 Reasons Why The Concept Of Tough Love Does More Harm Than Good Suruchi Patwary , 20 Aug 2020 What is tough love? Google defines it as ‘an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly with the intent to help them in the long run’.
Now, this type of behaviour might sound familiar to many of us. Some of us might have experienced tough love coming from our parents, teachers, a boss at work, or even our romantic partners.
Tough love is generally used in parenting or dealing with addicts. But of course, it is very much present in relationships too and in this article, we’ll be talking about it in the context of romantic relationships.
We got in touch with Ms. Anagha Bhave, a psychologist who is an alumna of St. Xaviers College, Columbia University, New York to help us understand the concept of tough love better.
She broke down the negative effects of tough love when practiced in a relationship and explained how tough love ranges from mild to severe.
Anagha says that while a certain degree of tough love is important because it can positively influence the relationship like reminding the other person of your self worth or setting clear boundaries—two important factors for a healthy relationship.
However, she also emphasised on how tough can have negative effects when practiced excessively. Below are the six main reasons why tough love does more harm than good.
1. Incapable Of Learning Many times, the practice of tough love reveals that a person uses it because they assume their partner is incapable of learning by showing soft love or affection. They assume that is the only way to make their partner understand something and that being ‘soft’ with them won’t help them learn.
2. Humiliating & Demeaning As mentioned earlier, when it is used to a certain degree, it can be healthy. But when tough love is used in extreme, it can be very humiliating and demeaning for the person at the receiving end of it. Being treated in a ‘tough’ way in public, or a social gathering, or even if front of friends and family can feel insulting, especially when the other person is your partner.
3. Inability To Be Patient & Kind This type of behaviour actually doesn’t say more about the person receiving it but it says about the person doing it. Anagha strongly believes that tough love reflects on the person’s own inability to be patient and kind with their partner. Treating your partner with kindness and being patient with them are important factors for a happy, healthy relationship.
4. Create Shame & Guilt Constant and excessive use of tough love is more likely to create shame and guilt in the mind of the person receiving it. And these two emotions, especially, do not promote healthy self-growth. Being in a constant state of mind of shame and guilt can harm a person’s mental peace.
5. Make Love Seem Conditional
In a healthy relationship, love should come across as unconditional. And excessive tough love can make love seem unconditional, which is very unhealthy in the long run. Making your partner feel that they have to be a certain way to feel loved by you is not a healthy way to go about in a relationship.
6. Increase Stress Apart from the shame, guilt, and humiliation, tough love can also increase stress for the person receiving it. And too much stress or anxiety in a relationship can push a person to adopt unhealthy coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol, etc.
7. Poor Empathy Most importantly, excessive tough love showcases poor empathy! Empathy is very important in a relationship and so if you’re somebody who adopts tough love and excessively so, it probably shows that you’re not really able to understand and share your partner’s emotions. It also shows that you’re too preoccupied with how you feel.
Exactly Dmmichgood. Anyone that has or had involvement in social services/ social institutions should of kept up with research ( well common sense too) re that concept. several of the counselors where i worked used the tough love approach even this year.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 17:52:46 GMT -5
Well then, you use the eye of the needle to cope with your diabetes and you will soon be feeding the worms. ** Curly, don't quit your day job, you need to read your Bible so, you KNOW what you are talking about when it comes to the Bible. Why would I read your book of fiction?
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 17:56:06 GMT -5
** When was the last time you read your Bible? Jesus said it is easier for a camel go through the eye of the needle than a rich man to enter heaven. I’m sure you know that the eye of the needle was an entrance into the cities that was used when the main gate was closed. It was a low passage gate requiring camels to get down on their knees to get through the gate. Hard but not impossible. ** I KNOW that information long time ago but Curly didn't know that until now. He thought Jesus used the word the eye of the needle then it must be in the Bible and he didn't know about it was a gate named the eye of the needle. Learn something NEW every day, eh Curly.
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Post by Pragmatic on Jul 19, 2021 18:04:16 GMT -5
I’m sure you know that the eye of the needle was an entrance into the cities that was used when the main gate was closed. It was a low passage gate requiring camels to get down on their knees to get through the gate. Hard but not impossible. ** I KNOW that information long time ago but Curly didn't know that until now. He thought Jesus used the word the eye of the needle then it must be in the Bible and he didn't know about it was a gate named the eye of the needle. Learn something NEW every day, eh Curly. Curly knows an awful lot more than you think. You would be foolish to assume otherwise
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2021 18:06:42 GMT -5
** I KNOW that information long time ago but Curly didn't know that until now. He thought Jesus used the word the eye of the needle then it must be in the Bible and he didn't know about it was a gate named the eye of the needle. Learn something NEW every day, eh Curly. Curly knows an awful lot more than you think. You would be foolish to assume otherwise not enough to save his soul though....
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 18:06:44 GMT -5
I’m sure you know that the eye of the needle was an entrance into the cities that was used when the main gate was closed. It was a low passage gate requiring camels to get down on their knees to get through the gate. Hard but not impossible. ** I KNOW that information long time ago but Curly didn't know that until now. He thought Jesus used the word the eye of the needle then it must be in the Bible and he didn't know about it was a gate named the eye of the needle. Learn something NEW every day, eh Curly. You do assume a lot for an ignorant wanna be failed worker. I was brought up in the truth and knew that before you had even heard of Leo Stuntcliff.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 18:07:55 GMT -5
Curly knows an awful lot more than you think. You would be foolish to assume otherwise not enough to save his soul though.... I base my life on the here and now and factual evidence. That is quite different to your mythology and vain hope of living forever.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 18:17:34 GMT -5
** I KNOW that information long time ago but Curly didn't know that until now. He thought Jesus used the word the eye of the needle then it must be in the Bible and he didn't know about it was a gate named the eye of the needle. Learn something NEW every day, eh Curly. Curly knows an awful lot more than you think. You would be foolish to assume otherwise ** Curly knows crappy science that keep on changing and revolving something new all the time. He puts his eternal soul believing in crappy Science, which will prove him wrong there is life after death. Too bad he doesn't read Luke 16. I put my faith and trust in God and Christ for my Salvation.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 18:22:19 GMT -5
Curly knows an awful lot more than you think. You would be foolish to assume otherwise ** Curly knows crappy science that keep on changing and revolving something new all the time. You are really so uninformed of how science works. If science is so crappy then throw away your diabetes needles and trust in your book of the talking donkey.
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Post by Annan on Jul 19, 2021 18:30:00 GMT -5
** Curly knows crappy science that keep on changing and revolving something new all the time. You are really so uninformed of how science works. If science is so crappy then throw away your diabetes needles and trust in your book of the talking donkey. Exactly. It wasn’t too long ago he was saying that his god created science and medicine when we asked why he didn’t ask his god to cure him.
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Post by BobWilliston on Jul 19, 2021 18:40:01 GMT -5
What amuses me is that whilst you were a worker you fell in love with an outsider, left the work and married her. Being unequally yoked is not only mentioned in the bible but I have heard loads of workers preach about this. Why do you come on this board shouting at people about their sins and you thumbed your nose at your god and the workers just because you met an outside woman and wanted to marry her. What kind of twisted logic are you going to support your reason for doing so? ** Hey, Liar and cheater mind your own business! Stay out of my personal life, please. I don't go into your closet and expose how many skeletons you have. Stick to 2x2 subjects, please.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 19:03:53 GMT -5
** Curly knows crappy science that keep on changing and revolving something new all the time. You are really so uninformed of how science works. If science is so crappy then throw away your diabetes needles and trust in your book of the talking donkey. my God give these doctors the knowledge to treat diabetof to keep me alive for 12 years! Thanks, to my God for the medicine and those who help us to live longer.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jul 19, 2021 19:10:22 GMT -5
You are really so uninformed of how science works. If science is so crappy then throw away your diabetes needles and trust in your book of the talking donkey. my God give these doctors the knowledge to treat diabetof to keep me alive for 12 years! Thanks, to my God for the medicine and those who help us to live longer. Funny. Have you ever asked your god why he gave you diabetes in the first place. Have you ever asked your god why until recently if you had diabetes you died? I suspect that you would not want to ask yourself those questions as the truth would be too painful fo you.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 19:16:02 GMT -5
my God give these doctors the knowledge to treat diabetof to keep me alive for 12 years! Thanks, to my God for the medicine and those who help us to live longer. Funny. Have you ever asked your god why he gave you diabetes in the first place. Have you ever asked your god why until recently if you had diabetes you died? I suspect that you would not want to ask yourself those questions as the truth would be too painful fo you. ** men women eat too much sugar in their foods and don't get enough exercise! Many inherit diabetic DNA from theirs parents. I inherited the diabetic from my parents. Many of men and health problems created and started by the humans don't blame God for it If I died as a diabetic then I go home to with God and Christ in heaven/ Venus. Glory be to God and good for no more TMB! Time to retired and to receive my rewards. Wally will get many of rewards also! hang in there, Wally. Don't let them win.
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Post by Annan on Jul 19, 2021 19:18:40 GMT -5
You are really so uninformed of how science works. If science is so crappy then throw away your diabetes needles and trust in your book of the talking donkey. my God give these doctors the knowledge to treat diabetof to keep me alive for 12 years! Thanks, to my God for the medicine and those who help us to live longer. You mean thank crappy science.
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Post by nathan02 on Jul 19, 2021 19:21:49 GMT -5
my God give these doctors the knowledge to treat diabetof to keep me alive for 12 years! Thanks, to my God for the medicine and those who help us to live longer. You mean thank crappy science. No, thanks to the doctors! Who discovered insulants for diabetics to live a normal life.
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Post by Pragmatic on Jul 19, 2021 19:54:49 GMT -5
my God give these doctors the knowledge to treat diabetof to keep me alive for 12 years! Thanks, to my God for the medicine and those who help us to live longer. You mean thank crappy science. So how do you explain your God giving the same knowledge so that atheists can also get treated? Do you think God runs a Science Lab for Nathan?
Scientists discovered that the Pancreas produces Insulin, and also that (for Type 2) the body can develop Insulin Resistance. So they worked out how to manufacture Insulin to inject for Type 1 (It was originally harvested from pig and/or cow pancreases) and how to reduce Insulin resistance for Type 2 diabetics. (Usually Metformin or a derivative, and also sometime a Pancreas Stimulant like Glicazide)
I would suggest, keeping things in perspective and be thankful for science.
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Post by chuck on Jul 19, 2021 20:37:19 GMT -5
It's hilarious that you liken yourself to a bear. Communist Russia has been known as the bear for a long time. The similarities between your nasty vindictive bullying behaviour is exactly the same as Russia's. Hello Commie bear. Hey, commie down under! I am NOT the Russian commie bear but an Americans teddy Bear! Very cuddle and loving kind. Will Curly go to Hell for not agreeing with you?.
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Post by 1chinesewhispers on Jul 19, 2021 20:41:48 GMT -5
SO SAD ! TO SEE ! I DID SAY I WOULD POP IN . BAD TIMING ! What would a new comer get from this ! THIS IS PERTAINING TO QUOTE OF WHEN DID LAST YOU READ YOUR BIBLE . Plus a extra example pertaining to the words we use without thinking 🤔 before hand . WHEN DID YOU LAST READ YOUR BIBLE ?………….. I read my BIBLE everyday , plus pay attention to the colors in the BIBLE & what thy stand for in KJV . Plus the 5 colors of Buddha . Meditate as I go deeper into Buddhism & what their colors stand for . Sometimes just for comfort and knowledge The following verses ARE ! Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones" is a proverb in the Bible . It means that "One should not cause harm to other people if he is himself vulnerable". The phrase is also commonly used religions ! Pertaining hypocrisy in implying that "One who is vulnerable to criticism regarding a certain issue should not others about the same issue." Jesus says it in Matthew 7:1-3: "Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your neighbor's eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? But WOW ! These are on queue , a situation is happening here in Texas . My Bible travels with me . As we try to find solace about mom’s passing . Furthermore my beautiful youngest daughter lost her final grandparents on July 8th . Still unable to hold a service till September All have passed now we are am seeking calm and closure in our lives 7 family members in 7 months now . Time out again Feel like 🤢 At this present sh- show . Back to my deck , as I ponder if a amend is required for a situation . I read my Bible everyday ! Even though we are not 2X2’s We are usually kind ………….. BUDDHISM is very different practice ! We are as kind as we can be & I We are certainly not professing souls . However we do our best We sing hymns for comfort still , especially , O ‘For the for peace of a perfect trust . 2X2’s are not for us . So those of us left are seeking answers . Cheers 🥂 🍻 Will pop in again sometime ! 👍 My youngest spends 2-4 nights hanging around 2X2’’S . They remained human !! Love and accept on each side forever . We cherish them and the other’s we see .
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