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Post by survive on Jan 1, 2009 15:01:11 GMT -5
My husband and I have been on the W coast now for 18 mos, continuing to go to mtg, respecting the request that we don't choose a hymn, pray, give testimony or partake of the emblems. Our little boy who will be four is asking why? We don't have an answer. Sunday we are going back to our other church where we are accepted. This is very hard. When you have been raised in this "ONLY WAY" it is hard to leave. I'm so confused today. I have not made a final chose to not go back, I'm just praying the Lord will lead us. I'm so sorry there is such a diffrence between Ca and CO and I don't understand. We had full fellowship there and none here. I am very sad as I write this. It seems that the suffering is from within not without
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Post by Pink on Jan 1, 2009 15:20:51 GMT -5
My heart aches for you. Just by the inconsistency, you should be hearing the alarms, the red flags. God's way is Jesus, who is the same yesterday, today, forever. You need to ask the ones in CA why the difference when you can partake in CO and you need to ask the ones in CO why the difference when you can't partake in CA.
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Post by buzzybee on Jan 16, 2009 12:35:53 GMT -5
Dear Survive,
I can definately relate with you. I had to make a clean break from the two by twos to keep from going insane. It's not you. Please do not try to make sense out of something that does not make sense.
I have found solace in a evangelical free church. At first the singing scared me because i was only used to hymns. But there is such a freedom there. It takes a while to make new friends because most of the times as a two by two we only associate with other two by two's. Give yourself time to grieve your old friends and start new ones. There will be alot of heart ache, but know this up front. It took about 5 monthes for the trauma to wear off enough so that i could start to see through the facade and label what the two by twos are doing as leagalism. Let me reassure you that God is the one doing the judging. I do not know why certain workers think they are.
There are nice Godly groups outside of the Two by Twos, you just need to look a little. It's been about one and 1/2 years since i left and i'm just now starting to grow emotionally again. You don't realize that you've stopped even, you just know something is wrong. Please post more as you feel you can.
Love you!!!
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Post by Annan on Jan 20, 2009 9:25:42 GMT -5
There are nice Godly groups outside of the Two by Twos, you just need to look a little.
I know my father had trouble dealing with leaving the 2X2's. I think he felt he was turning his back on God and/or the true way. It's been quite a few years of bouncing around from church to church and he still hasn't found a place that feels like home. It's hard to go it alone, even for me. Most everyone wants and seeks community. It's guilt that does the damage.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2009 15:30:20 GMT -5
My husband and I have been on the W coast now for 18 mos, continuing to go to mtg, respecting the request that we don't choose a hymn, pray, give testimony or partake of the emblems. Our little boy who will be four is asking why? We don't have an answer. Sunday we are going back to our other church where we are accepted. This is very hard. When you have been raised in this "ONLY WAY" it is hard to leave. I'm so confused today. I have not made a final chose to not go back, I'm just praying the Lord will lead us. I'm so sorry there is such a diffrence between Ca and CO and I don't understand. We had full fellowship there and none here. I am very sad as I write this. It seems that the suffering is from within not without Although we were in quite different circumstances when we made our exit 2001, I remember the enormous pain and turmoil of rejection quite clearly -- I am not really sure why it felt that way, as today this same knowledge of rejection from the group is truely a comfort. As tussled and unkempt as we were, as we climbed off the shore of the 'Red Sea' that had separated us from the complete social world we had known, we pounded in a stake to mark where and when it was ----- and since then the whole experience has instead of this pain, become a wonder to us, proving Gods wondrous love and mercy.
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Post by maggsmagpie on Mar 10, 2009 1:13:25 GMT -5
Hi I am 75 this year and it is 45 years since I found myself outside. Not a week goes by that I dont think of someone I left behind that I cared so much for. It was a case of turmoil within and unable to accept them as the only way but they thought the reason was different to the real one. They are mostly good people but the culture means they cut you off and I would have been much the same had I stayed and this is not right. I can count on one hand anyone who cared and no workers ever contacted me. I could not go to another christian church so I have have faith in my future and not affraid to die. My question also included other faiths such as Jews, Moslems, Hindus, Budists and the many other beliefs in the world. After all 3 groups trace themselves back to Abram and the christian religions are almost all offshoots off the Cathloic Church. Good men made honest attemps to get back to the teachings of the bible like Luther, William Irvive, Eddie Cooney and many others but I am not convinced there is any unbroken line back to Jesus. Nobody misses the fellowship more than me but one has to truly beleive to stay with it which I cant do and it takes a lot of guts to leave it so all I can say is be true to yourselves. maggsmagpie
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Post by Sharon on Mar 12, 2009 22:30:56 GMT -5
My husband and I have been on the W coast now for 18 mos, continuing to go to mtg, respecting the request that we don't choose a hymn, pray, give testimony or partake of the emblems. Our little boy who will be four is asking why? We don't have an answer. Sunday we are going back to our other church where we are accepted. This is very hard. When you have been raised in this "ONLY WAY" it is hard to leave. I'm so confused today. I have not made a final chose to not go back, I'm just praying the Lord will lead us. I'm so sorry there is such a diffrence between Ca and CO and I don't understand. We had full fellowship there and none here. I am very sad as I write this. It seems that the suffering is from within not without A situation in reverse...a D&R couple lived in MN. and had little privileges, if any....there was a small place In CO. that needed friends, this couple offered to sell their home and move to CO...They both were "released" to take part, and he was the elder of that tiny mtg. The responsibilities naturally and spiritually was more then they seemed to want to handle, so a few years later then moved back to MN. But I have not heard if they still have full privileges in the mtgs.
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