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Post by Pamela on Apr 5, 2008 0:21:16 GMT -5
Some children are so eay to bring up, others need understanding and cajoling before they will fit in to life's unnatural pattern.
How do people go about controling their kids?
Is smacking a last resort?
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alana
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Post by alana on Apr 7, 2008 20:30:13 GMT -5
I cannot stand being in meeting and hearing a child gettin slapped and it is usually for a trivial offence. Fidgetting for example. Something some adults do all the time.
It freaks me out to hear and feel the slap.
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Post by Frustrated on Apr 7, 2008 21:13:01 GMT -5
Parents who are frustrated, insecure and/or under pressure often resort to smacking.
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Post by Spare the rod on Apr 7, 2008 21:18:05 GMT -5
Spare the rod................
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Post by aileen on Apr 10, 2008 1:44:01 GMT -5
I cannot stand being in meeting and hearing a child gettin slapped and it is usually for a trivial offence. Fidgetting for example. Something some adults do all the time. It freaks me out to hear and feel the slap. Are you saying you are an advocate of having no discipline then?
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Post by spare the rod on Apr 10, 2008 23:52:08 GMT -5
Of course not.
Why would it follow that a person who abhors physical punishment would not approve of discipline?
Children have value as human beings, they deserve respect, guidance, sometimes firm boundaries, education and above all , they need and deserve love, love, love.
For God's sake talk to your child. Be firm, be consistent. reward as much as punish. Gain your child's favour. Deserve his/her love.
Look at your own relationship with God. If you only serve Him from fear do you think He doesn't know? He is not fooled.
Ensure that your child loves you, even as our God draws us with love, showers us with blessings, then requires of us sacrifice.
Do not put the horse before the cart.
PLEASE, all of you out there, if its YOU, STOP HITTING YOUR child.Once you lose faith and trust with the child you have created the problem that many people solve with violence, yes violence great or small. You inflict pain, great or small just as any bully wants to find the shortest way to ger his will, you do the same if you smack, hit or beat your child.
The child will eventually obey you from fear. You are paving the way for teen problems and later.
.......and remember that child will grow up.... eventually and what will s/he remember of childhood?
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Post by aileen on Apr 11, 2008 3:11:49 GMT -5
My children are now adults. In response to this I asked the one who had the most discipline needs if he remembered being spanked. He did, but fully supported the action.
Spanking is like drinking, it is a fine line between controlled sensible practical use and abuse.
To have a blanket ban on spanking as a means of punishment is, in my mind, to promote indiscipline. It would be similar to banning prison or fines as punishment, and still demanding that the police control the rogues of society.
Its true that smacking is the imposition of the parents will on that of the child. Done right, I support that. The child has a will, but if that is to behave unsociably, then it needs corrected.
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