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Post by thelight on Apr 26, 2018 23:41:52 GMT -5
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Post by snow on Apr 27, 2018 12:29:05 GMT -5
Unfortunately when a young child has grown up being abused by her father & her mother sees it happening & does absolutely nothing about it, that child does not necessarily understand that what is happening to them is wrong. So when approached & interviewed by childrens services (in Qld - a seperate, more recent instance of this being reported to the one mentioned above) that may be the first time the child is made aware that what their father is doing is wrong & not normal. What a scary & confusing time slowly coming to this realisation - especially when these people come to interview/talk to you in front of your brothers. Is it no surprise that the child never told them what was happening to her? This was a finding that was reported by Susan Clancy in The Trauma Myth. Excerpt from The Trauma Myth: Clancy writes in “The Trauma Myth” that when she arrived at Harvard in 1996, the trauma theory held that “a child will only participate in abuse if forced, threatened, or explicitly coerced” (p. 41). Then she interviewed victims and learned, “They did not fight it. It was not done against their will. They went along... only 5% tried to stop it” (p. 41). Clancy concludes that since sexual abuse of children is not violent per se, the millions of victims who did not experience their sex abuse as traumatic grapple with crippling thoughts of shame, embarrassment, and self-blame, thus compounding their suffering. She advocates for a refined understanding of the immediate effects of child sex abuse in order to better help those who are excluded from a clinical and popular culture that embraces the trauma model.
A brief review of The Trauma MythBreaking The Trauma Myth - 25 years laterFrom the above link: By the end of the study, the data was clear. Although sexual abuse was not a particularly awful experience for many victims when it happened, looking back on it, from their perspective as adults, it was awful—ratings of shock, horror, disgust, and even fear were all high. Obviously, perceptions of abuse when it occurs and when victims look back on it years later are entirely different. In addition, sexual abuse is very different from other kinds of terrible life experiences. For example, getting into a car accident is traumatic both at the time it happens and later when it is recalled. Sexual abuse, however, becomes traumatic later on. Why? What happens in the aftermath of sexual abuse?
According to victims, they did not experience the abuse as awful when it happened because most simply did not understand clearly the meaning or significance of the sexual behaviors they were engaging in. That being said, at some point later on in life, they do. Over time, the "cloak of innocence lifted," as one victim described it. Victims reconceptualized the formerly "confusing and weird experiences" and understood them for what they were—sexual in nature and clearly wrong. Only at this point—when the sexual abuse is fully apprehended—does it begin to damage victims. The above is an explanation of the findings looking back from the current climate. The conclusions reached in the book have also been supported by others including David Finkelhor, Bruce Rind, Robert Bauserman, Philip Tromovitch, etc. I was never abused as a child and mine was a one time incident. But it's a surreal experience. You have such mixed feelings about things, fear, shame and also guilt, wondering if you somehow did something that made it happen. It's traumatic no question, but it's also like you're in a very different space. I think your mind protects you and it's after the fact, when you have a chance to think about it in a safe place, that you realize just how bad it was. I remember being afraid, but my most prominent emotion at the time was to just stay alive. All my energy was focused on that and getting away alive.
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Post by snow on Apr 27, 2018 12:31:43 GMT -5
I agree with howitis. In this specific case, the sexual acts the children were exposed to were not straight forward "normal adult" behaviours. This man performed violent acts with the use of implements (tools such as spanners, screwdrivers etc) not intented for sexual pleasure. That is just one example of the violence he engaged in. I apologise for being so graphic, but those who know this man need to know the truth about what he has done. He is not your stock standard everyday child abuser if there is such a thing. ["The allegations against Mr Blyth in police facts before the court are too disturbing to print."] www.echo.net.au/2017/11/man-charged-historical-sexual-assault-four-year-old-girl-casino/It amazes me that with that number of charges that he ever got bail. It's a strange world we live in when someone who sold drugs gets worse treatment than someone like this guy.
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Post by thelight on Apr 27, 2018 19:14:20 GMT -5
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Post by kittens on Apr 27, 2018 19:15:13 GMT -5
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Post by rational on Apr 28, 2018 16:31:11 GMT -5
Back when all this was happening there were no laws about mandatory reporting in Australia as far as I am aware. So no-one who knew or suspected anything would not have been doing anything 'wrong' by not speaking up - legally I mean. Also back then no-one had any dealings with the police unless you were a very bad person. The only time a 'good' person spoke to the police was if the police notified them about the death of a relative because they didn't have a telephone. Or to get a driving licence. I think in most people's minds (at least the older people I knew) it would have been unthinkable to go the police about something like this. It should be unthinkable today as well. Child protective services, or whatever they are titles where the report is mede, is a much better agency to work with cases like this than the police. They will call the police if necessary. People need to be educated on all aspects of child abuse.
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Post by thelight on Jan 2, 2019 0:50:33 GMT -5
James should be eligible for parole this month. Has anyone heard any updates?
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Post by thelight on Jan 15, 2019 22:23:53 GMT -5
According to all reports he is out. Being housed by some generous (or is that seriously stupid) (2x2) friends! Still pleading his innocence - it was gods plan for him to go to jail so he could "preach the gospel" to inmates. Unfortunately people believe him & are supporting him.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2019 22:51:14 GMT -5
It is so sad that a head full of rubbish can cloud your judgement, and make you a target to an unscrupulous person.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jan 16, 2019 3:48:57 GMT -5
According to all reports he is out. Being housed by some generous (or is that seriously stupid) (2x2) friends! Still pleading his innocence - it was gods plan for him to go to jail so he could "preach the gospel" to inmates. Unfortunately people believe him & are supporting him. That is so sick. Perhaps you could invite him to a game of baseball with a few young lads.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jan 16, 2019 3:49:44 GMT -5
It is so sad that a head full of rubbish can cloud your judgement, and make you a target to an unscrupulous person. It is not only sad it shows how morally bankrupt some of the friends are.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2019 4:14:56 GMT -5
Is it necessarily 'seriously stupid' or 'morally bankrupt' to offer housing support to someone coming out of jail following a csa conviction?
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Post by thelight on Jan 16, 2019 17:35:41 GMT -5
Is it necessarily 'seriously stupid' or 'morally bankrupt' to offer housing support to someone coming out of jail following a csa conviction? Lance, perhaps you should have a thorough read of the below newspaper article about it all. www.northernstar.com.au/news/casino-man-offered-bribes-to-his-sex-abuse-victims/3295127/I know that we are all taught to have a forgiving heart... however this was his THIRD time in jail for child sexual abuse... he's done time in 2 different states.... one of his victims was his own flesh & blood (where might I add the abuse was over a period of years, not a one off occurrence). When discussing him with people the word EVIL gets used in almost every instance, including those who only knew him as a young boy. This is not a man who has been wrongly accused. This is a man who has DESTROYED the lives of innocent girls (note in the article where it states what he did to the girls being too graphic & distressing to report on) - only he really knows how many. This is also a man who has not a single ounce of remorse for his actions. Is this a man who you would welcome into your home with open arms?
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Post by janj on Jan 16, 2019 23:12:59 GMT -5
Is it necessarily 'seriously stupid' or 'morally bankrupt' to offer housing support to someone coming out of jail following a csa conviction? Lance, perhaps you should have a thorough read of the below newspaper article about it all. www.northernstar.com.au/news/casino-man-offered-bribes-to-his-sex-abuse-victims/3295127/I know that we are all taught to have a forgiving heart... however this was his THIRD time in jail for child sexual abuse... he's done time in 2 different states.... one of his victims was his own flesh & blood (where might I add the abuse was over a period of years, not a one off occurrence). When discussing him with people the word EVIL gets used in almost every instance, including those who only knew him as a young boy. This is not a man who has been wrongly accused. This is a man who has DESTROYED the lives of innocent girls (note in the article where it states what he did to the girls being too graphic & distressing to report on) - only he really knows how many. This is also a man who has not a single ounce of remorse for his actions. Is this a man who you would welcome into your home with open arms? People like this should NEVER be allowed back into society. A huge percentage of them will reoffend (as has been proven here) Its not about forgiveness- it's about safety. He should be secured somewhere in order to keep others and himself safe!
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Post by thelight on Jan 17, 2019 0:13:10 GMT -5
Can I please add to this post - should any person be reading it that has fallen victim to this man, know that the laws in NSW have changed & should James be sentenced again, it would fall under the CURRENT sentencing standards. Previously the judges hands have been tied & they've had to sentence him under historical standards (the year/s the offences occured = minimal time in jail). Unfortunately there could be more victims in Qld where the legislation remains the same - should you choose to come forward there will be others in support of you to help you through the process (same goes for anyone in NSW). www.justice.nsw.gov.au/Documents/Media%20Releases/2018/new-legislation-to-strengthen-child-abuse-laws-summary.pdf
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Post by howitis on Jan 17, 2019 2:20:22 GMT -5
Lance, perhaps you should have a thorough read of the below newspaper article about it all. www.northernstar.com.au/news/casino-man-offered-bribes-to-his-sex-abuse-victims/3295127/I know that we are all taught to have a forgiving heart... however this was his THIRD time in jail for child sexual abuse... he's done time in 2 different states.... one of his victims was his own flesh & blood (where might I add the abuse was over a period of years, not a one off occurrence). When discussing him with people the word EVIL gets used in almost every instance, including those who only knew him as a young boy. This is not a man who has been wrongly accused. This is a man who has DESTROYED the lives of innocent girls (note in the article where it states what he did to the girls being too graphic & distressing to report on) - only he really knows how many. This is also a man who has not a single ounce of remorse for his actions. Is this a man who you would welcome into your home with open arms? People like this should NEVER be allowed back into society. A huge percentage of them will reoffend (as has been proven here) Its not about forgiveness- it's about safety. He should be secured somewhere in order to keep others and himself safe! Unfortunately society has at present no answers to the community in which a CSA offender is released. We must not be too careful in judging those that are currently being hospitable towards this monster....is it because they believe his innocence? Or is it to merely know where he is? I know of one community that has a released offender and the government's idea of the community and him being safe is to move him to another community and give him a new identity, I cannot imagine this helping the safety of the new community. Short of the death penalty what do we do with these people? Who wants to man a facility for them? Should they be given a full life imprisonment, never to be released? Chemical castration...does it really work so that no advances are made? This man did not care for the people he was entrusted to care for, how can one show forgiveness? love? Maybe the answer is for more of his victims to come forward and he gets put away again.. .until when??
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Post by dmmichgood on Jan 17, 2019 2:37:49 GMT -5
People like this should NEVER be allowed back into society. A huge percentage of them will reoffend (as has been proven here) Its not about forgiveness- it's about safety. He should be secured somewhere in order to keep others and himself safe! Unfortunately society has at present no answers to the community in which a CSA offender is released. We must not be too careful in judging those that are currently being hospitable towards this monster....is it because they believe his innocence? Or is if to merely know where he is? I know of one community that has a released offender and the government's idea of him being safe is to move him to another community and give him a new identity, I cannot imagine this helping the safety of the new community. Short of the death penalty what do we do with these people? Who wants to man a facility for them? Should they be given a full life imprisonment, never to be released? Chemical castration...does it really work so that no advances are made? This man did not care for the people he was entrusted to care for, how can one show forgiveness, love? Maybe the answer is for more of his victims to come forward and he gets put away again.. .until when?? In the US we do have some control as to where sex offenders may be. I believe that they have to register as such and not allowed within certain distances of schools etc where there children.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 3:26:26 GMT -5
Is it necessarily 'seriously stupid' or 'morally bankrupt' to offer housing support to someone coming out of jail following a csa conviction? Lance, perhaps you should have a thorough read of the below newspaper article about it all. www.northernstar.com.au/news/casino-man-offered-bribes-to-his-sex-abuse-victims/3295127/I know that we are all taught to have a forgiving heart... however this was his THIRD time in jail for child sexual abuse... he's done time in 2 different states.... one of his victims was his own flesh & blood (where might I add the abuse was over a period of years, not a one off occurrence). When discussing him with people the word EVIL gets used in almost every instance, including those who only knew him as a young boy. This is not a man who has been wrongly accused. This is a man who has DESTROYED the lives of innocent girls (note in the article where it states what he did to the girls being too graphic & distressing to report on) - only he really knows how many. This is also a man who has not a single ounce of remorse for his actions. Is this a man who you would welcome into your home with open arms? I have read and reread your answer, but I don't see it as answering my question. To your question, I'd say it depends on what you mean by 'open arms'. If it means that he can treat it as he would his own home, then the answer is 'no'.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2019 3:30:13 GMT -5
Unfortunately society has at present no answers to the community in which a CSA offender is released. We must not be too careful in judging those that are currently being hospitable towards this monster....is it because they believe his innocence? Or is it to merely know where he is? A thoughtful comment.
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Post by thelight on Jan 18, 2019 23:26:15 GMT -5
It seems as though the residents of NSW have one less child sex offender to worry about and QLD has gained one. Residents of the Somerset Region beware.
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Post by howitis on Jan 19, 2019 15:02:27 GMT -5
It seems as though the residents of NSW have one less child sex offender to worry about and QLD has gained one. Residents of the Somerset Region beware. He had been living in QLD for some time before his latest stint in a NSW prison, his first conviction was in Queensland although I'm pretty sure his first offence was in NSW. Skipping states is a favourite past time of child sex offenders here in Australia, as it seems the states don't have a good liaising record with each other and law enforcement differs from state to state. Most people familiar with this case just hope more victims will come forward so that further convictions would haste his return to prison.
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jan 19, 2019 18:27:30 GMT -5
What are his parole conditions?
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jan 19, 2019 18:30:37 GMT -5
One ploy which I do not really agree with is to find out where the criminal lives and then notify the neighbourhood of his whereabouts. That has been done by either a letterbox drop or nailing a sign to the fence. If he is housed by the friends then that will bring added complications for him. I also asked about parole conditions. Is he allowed near children even in a meeting situation?
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Post by thelight on Jan 19, 2019 19:44:45 GMT -5
Howitis is spot on - they have lived in NSW & QLD & he's committed offences in both states & now been in prison in both states. However, from what i am told part of his parole conditions are that he is unable to return home until the parole period is over. So they are currently living with "friends" in another small town in Qld - within the Somerset region.
He will no doubt be listed on the child sex offenders register, so would not be allowed near schools or other public places children could be BUT i guess its up to other members whether or not he attends meetings etc? His wife still had been attending in NSW while waiting for her husband to be released, so if he can, he will.
No matter where they choose to live, it will always be known by others. They wont be able to hide. Community members will not want them in their town.
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Post by howitis on Jan 20, 2019 15:27:27 GMT -5
The trouble is that often the authorities give offenders help, they allow/assist them to change their name, thus giving them a new identity, they also assist them to relocate, yes they must stay on the sex offenders register, but often no one knows who they really are in a new location. Conditions of not being near a school etc. are only helpful with compliance, many do not comply. As far as the workers go in NSW at least, I've noticed those on the register are not able to attend meetings, convention etc....my worry is there are so many CSA offenders out there who have not been convicted that are still able to attend within all sporting clubs, churches, schools and other organisations.
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Post by thelight on Jan 20, 2019 17:21:40 GMT -5
....my worry is there are so many CSA offenders out there who have not been convicted that are still able to attend within all sporting clubs, churches, schools and other organisations. This is definitely a worry, especially when they all still seem to have their supporters.
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Post by howitis on Jan 20, 2019 17:23:47 GMT -5
....my worry is there are so many CSA offenders out there who have not been convicted that are still able to attend within all sporting clubs, churches, schools and other organisations. This is definitely a worry, especially when they all still seem to have their supporters. I agree and it seems those in authority are actually enabling the issue
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Post by curlywurlysammagee on Jan 20, 2019 18:12:39 GMT -5
If someone is assisting a parolee to disobey their release conditions then they will be in deep donkey doo. The parolee could be recalled to serve more of his sentence.
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