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Post by maryhig on Mar 14, 2015 12:32:35 GMT -5
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Post by kurtzphil69 on Mar 14, 2015 12:50:09 GMT -5
But are there not healthy methods of purging that people use? Does it always have to involve getting drunk or using drugs or eating disorders? Some people turn to other forms of distraction that are effective, but not harmful to their health. Also distraction is not necessarily a type of purging. Distraction can simply be something to take one's mind off their pain. Some people do drink etc. to take away the pain though. Because it lifts them for that short while. It must be so hard for people who go through very painful times in their life. Especially if they don't know God! I never judge anyone, because I have empathy for them. That's why I think we go through some things we do in our lives, so we have care for others when we see the need! I've been through some tough times in my life, and I've done things I shouldn't of including getting drunk to ease the pain. But for me, the only thing that took the pain away was God, not only did God take my pain away but also the hardness I had towards a person that really hurt me. Now instead of hardness I want God to forgive him. I would never have thought like this without God because my heart was full of hurt and self pity. But with his strength I've let go, and in doing so I feel free! Because emotional pain causes just as much suffering as physical pain, so to let it go is amazing! I think most of us have been there...I don't judge them for it either. I've had to find healthier ways to cope with pain and it wasn't easy, but it seems like the healthier ways last longer and I know they are as harmful to my health. I agree with you that the only thing I've found that took pain away in a more lasting sense was the Lord. Hardening the heart is definitely a coping mechanism too. However it is usually only a temporary fix.
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Post by bitterbetty on Mar 14, 2015 13:09:43 GMT -5
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Post by bitterbetty on Mar 14, 2015 14:37:27 GMT -5
High Lonesome Sound-by Vince Gill and Alison Kraus www.youtube.com/watch?v=5J-iG5cweus"High Lonesome Sound" (feat. Alison Krauss) Whenever my soul is lonely Whenever I'm feeling blue I start thinkin' 'bout my blue eyed darlin' And my heart starts pinin' for you [Chorus:] I wanna hear that high lonesome sound Cause my sweet baby ain't around When my life's got me down I wanna hear that high lonesome sound When I'm lost in this ocean of darkness Not knowing which way I should turn And my eyes are filled with sadness Of knowing you'll never return Repeat chorus.
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Post by bitterbetty on Mar 14, 2015 14:45:16 GMT -5
Another great collaboration: Ricky Skaggs, Vince Gill, (young) Alison Kraus, Earl Scruggs and Marty Stuart on mandolin: www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGNpDKUhfxYLittle Girl of Mine in Tennessee
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Post by bitterbetty on Mar 14, 2015 14:55:44 GMT -5
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Post by bitterbetty on Mar 31, 2015 15:52:01 GMT -5
Please tell us more about this BIZARRE experience. Surely it could be a learning tool. Can't get into it tonight. It's getting late and I'm getting tired. But the element of threatened suicide by a third person was brought into the equation. I had recently taken a crisis intervention course which included suicide assessment, etc. I was a bit rattled by the suicide threat, to say the least. Looking back, now I realize it could have turned out much worse than it did. Character-building to say the least! I had planned on revisiting this thread to write more about that bizarre, character-building experience I had many, many years ago. Although it was not fun to go through and really threw me for a loop at the time; I could see later on that it was indeed character-building and could have turned out a lot worse than it did. So, I ended up doing some 'inventory' on the whole experience and realized I had a lot to be thankful for....I hurt very badly going through it, for which I needed to heal from and learn how to forgive. I distinctly remember consciously taking steps to forgive. Well, it got to a point in which I simply needed to forgive, or I knew I would be headed for an abyss like a pit of bitterness (and I didn't want that to happen.) But, other than needing and learning to forgive, I also recall needing to learn better communication and how to be assertive with regards to MY needs. i needed to learn how to stand up for myself and not let others walk all over me (trample me) into the ground. It was a tough lesson, for sure. I felt I was left with little choice in the matter: I HAD to forgive. I realized it was the only way I would completely HEAL. As long as I carried unforgiveness within me I would not heal completely; just partial healing. Some wounds we just seem to learn to live with and carry around with us. We can live with them, but they weigh us down as we lug them around with us. I knew the person who hurt me was sorry, although he had an odd way of showing it. He actually felt somewhat ashamed of himself. His remorse (in a way) helped me forgive. to be continued...
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