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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2014 18:39:42 GMT -5
I wonder how children raised in such circumstances feel about having parents of differing beliefs? I guess you had freedom but also were out of the loop at times. And some were uncomfortable when you mentioned what you heard on TV.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2014 19:37:37 GMT -5
in my case my parents took God totally out of the equation since they couldn't agree how to raise my sister and myself so until i was 14 i received no indoctrination from either one.
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Post by BobWilliston on Nov 22, 2014 20:16:06 GMT -5
in my case my parents took God totally out of the equation since they couldn't agree how to raise my sister and myself so until i was 14 i received no indoctrination from either one. So why did you decide on one instead of the other?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2014 21:50:24 GMT -5
in my case my parents took God totally out of the equation since they couldn't agree how to raise my sister and myself so until i was 14 i received no indoctrination from either one. So why did you decide on one instead of the other? there was more peace with one set of grandparents(professing) than the other(non professing)...so i wanted what they had in my life...
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Post by BobWilliston on Nov 22, 2014 22:29:29 GMT -5
So why did you decide on one instead of the other? there was more peace with one set of grandparents(professing) than the other(non professing)...so i wanted what they had in my life... I think that's a pretty common way children make those decisions. I'm not so sure the fact that one parent takes a kid to meeting/church all the time and the other parent never does has much bearing on how the kid will choose as an adult. You think so?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2014 23:23:27 GMT -5
there was more peace with one set of grandparents(professing) than the other(non professing)...so i wanted what they had in my life... I think that's a pretty common way children make those decisions. I'm not so sure the fact that one parent takes a kid to meeting/church all the time and the other parent never does has much bearing on how the kid will choose as an adult. You think so? very true you just never know what a kid will do once they hit 18, although i seem to hear from catholics that if one parent took them to the catholic church they picked catholic for some reason especially if it was a mother...
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Post by BobWilliston on Nov 23, 2014 0:03:25 GMT -5
I think that's a pretty common way children make those decisions. I'm not so sure the fact that one parent takes a kid to meeting/church all the time and the other parent never does has much bearing on how the kid will choose as an adult. You think so? very true you just never know what a kid will do once they hit 18, although i seem to hear from catholics that if one parent took them to the catholic church they picked catholic for some reason especially if it was a mother... I suspect that it is more often mothers who will take their children to church alone. On the other hand, I think a few (more often mothers) parents I know who took their children to meeting with them succeeded in turning them off ... I think not so much because of meeting itself as the atmosphere in which they were taken. Many parents who disagree in parenting strategies make the kids feel like they are the cause of the friction and they don't want to have any more of it.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2014 4:08:27 GMT -5
I was brought up in a divided home. My mother was professing my father wasn't but he was happy to take us to meetings and pick us up every Sunday as mum could not drive when us kids were young. I think partly that she liked dad to have at least that much contact with professing people so getting her driving licence wasn't a high priority then. Dad had no problem with us all going as long as he did not have to go. I think he enjoyed having Sunday mornings on his own without any kids. Dad was always chatty and enjoyed having the workers come for a meal. They never stay a night at out house. Mum used dad as an excuse for many things, like getting a TV, really she wanted it but used dad as an excuse for getting it. That was after us kids had left home and they retired. Dad was quiet and Mum wore the pants. She would tell us that she was the head of the home because dad was not professing. Good excuse to be the boss. We always went to meeting with mum and convention when we got a bit older. All 4 of us professed but 2 of us left when we were 30 and went to a mainstream church. When I left my father said that your mother's church was too old fashioned. Mary we have much in common, experience wise. Mum was professing, dad was not, but he never interfered or gave us any advice pertaining to religious matters, mum ruled. He did allow us to have a radio,(wired service) mum was not keen but she allowed it. There was no TV service available at that time. When workers visited mum made sure that the radio was turned off, she never hid it though. My father made sure that he was not around when workers visited. I don't recall him ever going to a gospel meeting or convention, mum took all of us, children, but he remained at home alone and prepared his own meals.
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