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Post by gem2 on Oct 15, 2014 12:36:42 GMT -5
Just stopping to say hello and to speak a thought that has been laid on my heart the last while....don't ever take for granted those who you love...appreciate them each moment that you can...tell them and show them that you love them through your actions. Someday those loved ones will not be with us here on this earth.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2014 15:34:08 GMT -5
amen
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2014 15:53:20 GMT -5
Just stopping to say hello and to speak a thought that has been laid on my heart the last while....don't ever take for granted those who you love...appreciate them each moment that you can...tell them and show them that you love them through your actions. Someday those loved ones will not be with us here on this earth. Yes, very true and I agree wholeheartedly. I am glad you wrote: " tell them and show them you love them through your actions." Sometimes words can be a little empty and they come easily, but actions can speak more loudly than words, so a combination of words followed by and reinforced with actions is a more genuine display of true feelings, and most likely would be appreciated more deeply. Thanks for the thoughts.
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Luke 12 v.40 Be ye therefore ready also: for the Son of man cometh at an hour when ye think not
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Post by gem2 on Oct 16, 2014 5:44:13 GMT -5
thank you partaker-I recently lost a beloved sister and I am dealing with the grieving process. what I desire for myself is this: to have a heart that is overflowing with love for God and others., to love others like I have never loved before.,to really appreciate others , to have compassion for others...I just can't post it enough lol -don't worry I won't post about it again but its just been made so real to me. I can genuinely say that I love you all-this comes from the heart.
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Post by bubbles on Oct 16, 2014 6:13:02 GMT -5
Im sorry for your loss gem2. Sending you a big hug
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Post by gem2 on Oct 16, 2014 6:16:36 GMT -5
thank you very much bubbles
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Post by bubbles on Oct 16, 2014 6:21:51 GMT -5
thank you very much bubbles
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2014 6:44:44 GMT -5
thank you partaker-I recently lost a beloved sister and I am dealing with the grieving process. what I desire for myself is this: to have a heart that is overflowing with love for God and others., to love others like I have never loved before.,to really appreciate others , to have compassion for others...I just can't post it enough lol -don't worry I won't post about it again but its just been made so real to me. I can genuinely say that I love you all-this comes from the heart. That's ok, that in itself is healthy and brings release/ relief to an aching heart.I often like to quote old sayings and there is one which goes like this : "you never miss the water until the well runs dry." More often than not, that rings/seems true, Especially when we have lost a loved one, someone nearest and dearest to us, a family relative or a friend. Please accept my condolences.
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Post by gem2 on Oct 16, 2014 6:54:52 GMT -5
thank you partaker
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2014 8:11:01 GMT -5
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Post by snow on Oct 16, 2014 14:51:15 GMT -5
Just stopping to say hello and to speak a thought that has been laid on my heart the last while....don't ever take for granted those who you love...appreciate them each moment that you can...tell them and show them that you love them through your actions. Someday those loved ones will not be with us here on this earth. So true. I lost two people this year. My mom in January and the father of my children a little over a month ago. You just never know. They can appear healthy and all is well and then they are gone. In both cases it was a huge shock to our families. So yes, tell them and show them you love them. I love that you say through your actions because although words are nice, it's actions that back up the words and make them real. Hugs to you in your loss gem2
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Post by gem2 on Oct 16, 2014 16:59:38 GMT -5
I am soooo sorry snow for your losses. Hugs to you snow
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Post by bubbles on Oct 16, 2014 17:06:42 GMT -5
When my Darling Pops died 2yr ago. The following 6 mths 9 family and friends passed. It was like a mass exodus. Some affected me more than others. I still havent decided whether to be cremated or buried.
Xoxo
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Post by gem2 on Oct 16, 2014 17:13:03 GMT -5
Oh bubbles, I am so sorry for all your losses too. That is so sad..big bear hugs to you.
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Post by snow on Oct 16, 2014 21:00:25 GMT -5
When my Darling Pops died 2yr ago. The following 6 mths 9 family and friends passed. It was like a mass exodus. Some affected me more than others. I still havent decided whether to be cremated or buried. Xoxo That's a lot of people to lose in such a short time. So sorry to hear that bubbles. Hugs from me too.
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Post by bubbles on Oct 16, 2014 22:10:54 GMT -5
Hugs back. This is becoming a huggy thread..
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Post by Scott Ross on Oct 17, 2014 12:36:22 GMT -5
Hugs are good.....
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Post by bubbles on Oct 17, 2014 13:54:45 GMT -5
Nate That is so sad. Im sure he appreciated your care and visits.
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Post by kencoolidge on Oct 21, 2014 11:04:24 GMT -5
Just stopping to say hello and to speak a thought that has been laid on my heart the last while....don't ever take for granted those who you love...appreciate them each moment that you can...tell them and show them that you love them through your actions. Someday those loved ones will not be with us here on this earth. Yes, very true and I agree wholeheartedly. I am glad you wrote: " tell them and show them you love them through your actions." Sometimes words can be a little empty and they come easily, but actions can speak more loudly than words, so a combination of words followed by and reinforced with actions is a more genuine display of true feelings, and most likely would be appreciated more deeply. Thanks for the thoughts. Partaker In other words your actions should be a witness to your words ken
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Post by bubbles on Oct 21, 2014 18:32:48 GMT -5
Love breaks down many walls.
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Post by kurtzphil69 on Oct 22, 2014 16:19:32 GMT -5
Love breaks down many walls. I was talking to an older couple last night who have been married for 56 years. I asked them what their 'secret' was to a long and happy marriage. What does it take? He took a few seconds to answer, but when he did he said this: "There's only one word: Love." '
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Post by bitterbetty on Oct 22, 2014 16:42:30 GMT -5
thank you partaker-I recently lost a beloved sister and I am dealing with the grieving process. what I desire for myself is this: to have a heart that is overflowing with love for God and others., to love others like I have never loved before.,to really appreciate others , to have compassion for others...I just can't post it enough lol -don't worry I won't post about it again but its just been made so real to me. I can genuinely say that I love you all-this comes from the heart. Gem2-Sorry for your loss. Losing a beloved sister; well, it sounds as though you were close and there no one quite like a beloved sibling (depending upon how close you are/were). It's such a strong bond. I am very thankful that all my life I have not just been a sister to my siblings, but I've also been a friend to my siblings and in many ways-best friends....My one sister who is also a nurse is who I am closest to; she and I have a very special bond that had been forged some while still living at home as kids, but it really came to fruition when we were roommates and classmates in nursing school! We helped each other and depended on one another a lot, but it was never a dysfunctional/co-dependency type of thing. I was a healthy dependence. And, afterall, what are families for? Anyways, while we were roommates and getting through nursing school (which was very INTENSE, I might add), we were forging another bond along the way: that of MUSIC. We grew up singing together as a family, but she and I would often spontaneously just make music together on a regular basis when we were college roommates and we sang at some weddings of fellow nursing students, etc. We were quite good together and still are. One of the nursing instructors, when he heard us perform, said: "Why are you guys in nursing school?!?. You should be cutting records!" It was a huge compliment and he was only partially serious with that comment. Anyways, you are right and I agree, the answer is loving others. When our hearts are 'overflowing' with love for others, I find life is just so much better. It's the answer to a lot of things: feeling a bit lonesome, feeling a bit discouraged, whatever it is you are feeling, when you are given an opportunity to care for and love others, well, it's just a big help, I have found. And, there are a LOT of people in this world who need love, even if they don't express that or are afraid to say it. But it's HOW they 'SAY' it sometimes that we 'miss'. Love 'speaks' in many ways. I had on older lady patient of mine one evening just say, "I've missed you!" WOW. I hadn't guessed that her memory was even good enough to miss me!! haha-as she was very forgetful. But, by saying she missed me, she was also saying she loved me.
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Post by bitterbetty on Oct 22, 2014 16:48:37 GMT -5
Love breaks down many walls. I was talking to an older couple last night who have been married for 56 years. I asked them what their 'secret' was to a long and happy marriage. What does it take? He took a few seconds to answer, but when he did he said this: "There's only one word: Love." ' That's nice. I will add another word, if I may: Respect. (I guess respect is part of love, anyways...) But, the thought occurred to me that when we respect someone we tend to treat them better, which makes the relationship better. When respect is lost or compromised, it puts strain of the relationship. One time a church elder made a very disrespectful comment to me and my husband. It was a very unloving, almost hateful comment and I knew by what he said he didn't like me, let alone love me as a sister in the Lord. But, for some reason, I wasn't overly hurt or surprised by the comment as it went with his personality. He had no right to say what he did and I could no reason for saying what he did, other than he was to be hurtful somehow. The comment he made told me much more about him then about myself. I sincerely hope he has 'grown' and will be more loving...But, I never forgot what he said and he is not easy to talk to, so I have never felt I could bring it up or talk openly about it: closed door. Where is/was the love in that? Sometimes, we are AFRAID to let others get close to us and really know us, for fear that if they knew all our weaknesses and faults (as well as our strengths & attributes) they might not respect us as much as we'd like.
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Post by kurtzphil69 on Oct 22, 2014 17:07:14 GMT -5
That's nice. I will add another word, if I may: Respect. (I guess respect is part of love, anyways...) Sometimes, we are AFRAID to let others get close to us and really know us, for fear that if they knew all our weaknesses and faults (as well as our strengths & attributes) they might not respect us as much as we'd like. Well, that is where unconditional love comes into play. Do you still love someone, even after certain things have come to pass; even after you find something out about them that is not so good? This is often where our love for others is tested and tried the most. And-speaking of unconditional love: there's got to be a certain amount of forgiveness in the picture as well. And-speaking of unforgiveness, does a person still love and respect their OWN self IN SPITE OF things that are not so good? Losing the respect of others is one thing. But we have to live with our own selves all the time. What kind of quality of life do we have when we lose our self-respect? And-do some churches tend to chop down the concept of self-respect? If so, is that healthy? You don't have to answer these questions. Some of them are rhetorical, anyways-
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Post by bitterbetty on Oct 22, 2014 17:14:41 GMT -5
That's nice. I will add another word, if I may: Respect. (I guess respect is part of love, anyways...) Sometimes, we are AFRAID to let others get close to us and really know us, for fear that if they knew all our weaknesses and faults (as well as our strengths & attributes) they might not respect us as much as we'd like. Well, that is where unconditional love comes into play. Do you still love someone, even after certain things have come to pass; even after you find something out about them that is not so good? This is often where our love for others is tested and tried the most. And-speaking of unconditional love: there's got to be a certain amount of forgiveness in the picture as well. And-speaking of unforgiveness, does a person still love and respect their OWN self for things that are not so good? Losing the respect of others is one thing. But we have to live with our own selves all the time. What kind of quality of life do we have when we lose our self-respect? And-do some churches tend to chop down the concept of self-respect? If so, is that healthy? You don't have to answer these questions. Some of them are rhetorical, anyways- Okay. I think I have a pretty good 'INKLING' of what you are getting at. Trust me, nurses give out unconditional love as part of their everyday duty in going to work and taking care of people. Nurses often get the "not too good" history and background on patients, all of which is highly confidential and frequently sensitive. But, no matter what you may come to KNOW about a certain patient, you still try to give them the best care you possibly can. The term TLC (tender loving care) might seem to be a bit overused in the medical field, but it is still a very good thing to do and a good way to be in a lot of cases... One thing I have found out about people: It is sometimes the ones who are NOT so 'perfect' who are the most appreciative of what all you do for them. There are SOooo many people out there who simply cannot forgive themselves for certain things they have done or things they have neglected to do...and they end up living with regret and it can make them sad and perhaps very depressed as well. One of the most miracles that can happen to a person is to receive the forgiveness of trespasses; from others as well as from their self. And another wonderful thing that can happen is when a person can (finally) 'let go' of unforgiveness. What liberty there is in that! In fact, most do not realize what kind of BONDAGE their unforgiveness has held them in until they finally let go and can experience that liberty.
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Post by emy on Oct 22, 2014 22:45:49 GMT -5
"In fact, most do not realize what kind of BONDAGE their unforgiveness has held them in until they finally let go and can experience that liberty. "
That's a wonderful observation.
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Post by bitterbetty on Oct 23, 2014 15:31:24 GMT -5
"In fact, most do not realize what kind of BONDAGE their unforgiveness has held them in until they finally let go and can experience that liberty. " That's a wonderful observation. Thanks, emy. I wrote as not only an observer, but there have times when I felt like the 'test pilot' myself in processing what is needed to forgive. When you have been wronged and hurt, forgiveness does not come that easily sometimes. It's like it has a GRIP on you. It's hard when you are still hurting from something to find it within yourself to forgive; maybe because the PAIN is the overriding SENSATION. (!!). In some cases, it is not until the pain subsides a bit that a person can bring their self to forgive. I can say I've been there and done that... But, I've also been in the place in which I really needed forgiveNESS; I needed to be forgiven. I'm not sure which one is more difficult. Neither is very much fun... But when there is TRUE, total and complete forgiveness, that is a thing of beauty.
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Post by kurtzphil69 on Oct 28, 2014 15:31:57 GMT -5
thank you partaker-I recently lost a beloved sister and I am dealing with the grieving process. what I desire for myself is this: to have a heart that is overflowing with love for God and others., to love others like I have never loved before.,to really appreciate others , to have compassion for others...I just can't post it enough lol -don't worry I won't post about it again but its just been made so real to me. I can genuinely say that I love you all-this comes from the heart. A dear uncle of mine passed away a few weeks ago. He was actually my second cousin-my dad's first cousin-same age as my dad. He felt more like an uncle to me and was more like a brother to my dad-they were sort of raised like brothers, in a way. So, we were very close to the family growing up and his kids were like first cousins to me instead of 3rd cousins. Funny how that works. Memories from childhood came flooding back when I heard about his passing. You think about what kind a person he was. The first thing that came to my mind was that he was such a good father. Other than that in the worldly sense he was not too terribly accomplished or educated. But, he always provided for his family and he was a patient, loving father who didn't have a bad temper and would do lots of fun things with and for his kids.
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