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Post by déjà vu on Mar 30, 2014 14:34:01 GMT -5
I hear from different friends that workers ask for separate rooms . Is this a sign of affluence ?
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Post by Greg on Mar 30, 2014 14:45:29 GMT -5
I hear from different friends that workers ask for separate rooms . Is this a sign of affluence ? Or flatulence?
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Post by fixit on Mar 30, 2014 14:53:34 GMT -5
I hear from different friends that workers ask for separate rooms . Is this a sign of affluence ? Partly, and also that most homes of professing folks these days don't have children living at home. Its also a way of avoiding sexual advances or the appearance thereof, or temptation. Or a snoring colleague.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2014 15:27:20 GMT -5
I think it is linked to affluence only because separate rooms are more likely to be available, but it's due to all the other reasons, including merely giving them some private space. We have never put two together in one room except in brief rare circumstances (a full house) and in those rare circumstances, never one bed.
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Post by maggsmagpie on Mar 30, 2014 15:40:46 GMT -5
No check on lap top viewing maggsmagpie
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2014 18:39:21 GMT -5
Workers get so little privacy. Some of the nerve problems are a result of this invasion of privacy. It would see unusual for the workers to actually ask for this arrangement. Given that some little child might become bitter over giving up his or her room to the workers.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2014 21:45:31 GMT -5
Workers get so little privacy. Some of the nerve problems are a result of this invasion of privacy. They get quite a bit of privacy these days. When workers get their own room (which is most of the time now), they spend many waking hours/day in there alone. A lot go for long walks or jogs alone. Some days they don't go out to any function at all, and emerge from their rooms only at meal time. I think they justify their day by their visit with their hosts at the mealtime. In some cities, workers are more busy but I would expect that even busy workers have the evenings in the privacy of their rooms. True. I don't recall any worker asking for any kind of arrangement in our place, and always seemed to be fine with what they got. Young kids don't mind at all. They like the adventure of going somewhere else. When our place was pretty full, our youngest would move into our room in a nice little bed on the floor and they were always quite happy with that and everyone felt more secure about that arrangement, including us. Teens might be less likely to be happy about moving. I don't recall if we ever moved our teens, but in their particular case it would have been ok because they were both pretty mellow teens.....fortunately they take after their mother!
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Post by gecko45 on Apr 6, 2014 22:15:31 GMT -5
I was never present to witness the audacity of a worker asking for separate rooms but it was only on the rare occasion that we would not be given each our own room.
Being the introvert that I am, I quietly accepted the few times that separate rooms were not an option. Made sure to have ear plugs and a sleeping pill so that sleep was possible with a companion who snored.
In my view its simply a matter of our affluent society and the amount of living space that people are accustomed to. Only the very poorest of families would have any family members (other than the parents) sharing a room. (Nearly always the poorest families, who can least afford it, that have the largest families. Sadly ironic how that works out). Most reasonable workers expect to be treated no differently than any other member of the family, separate bedrooms is the norm in our culture. Those laboring overseas in poorer countries are often found to be sharing a room, (and often a bed).
As for a child giving up their room, for me as a youth it was a fun brief adventure, like camping, but in the security and convenience of home. Any child who gave up their room for my use seemed as excited about this adventure as I had been at that age. Only once do I remember a time in which the child was sullen and resentful for having to give up their room. This was perhaps an indication of the underlying feelings of the entire family towards workers but the child was young and unable to mask their feelings as well as the adults could. Looking back I am saddened thinking of what events could have transpired that would have lead to that family having such feelings towards workers.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2014 16:03:17 GMT -5
In NZ prior to WW2 there were instances of sharing bed through necessity. I'm not sure how common this was but I have heard it mentioned several times.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2014 16:15:52 GMT -5
In NZ prior to WW2 there were instances of sharing bed through necessity. I'm not sure how common this was but I have heard it mentioned several times. And for both male and female workers but possibly not mixed.
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Post by arwen89 on Apr 12, 2014 8:01:50 GMT -5
Talking about audacity... Do you think it's necessary for workers to send ahead diet restriction before visit by a home?
The local special meetings were just last week and my parents had 3 brother workers for supper and the night Saturday. Every single one of them had special instructions about their food. One ate no "fatty foods" another was Gluten free, and the third actually had on the list "Call for instructions about food/diet restrictions."
Ridiculous or necessary?
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Post by Gene on Apr 12, 2014 8:28:24 GMT -5
Talking about audacity... Do you think it's necessary for workers to send ahead diet restriction before visit by a home? The local special meetings were just last week and my parents had 3 brother workers for supper and the night Saturday. Every single one of them had special instructions about their food. One ate no "fatty foods" another was Gluten free, and the third actually had on the list "Call for instructions about food/diet restrictions." Ridiculous or necessary? ☆Arwen☆ Depends.... but I'm skeptical of the necessity. Maybe if they're an insulin-pushing diabetic. Or, say, a worker who is Jewish and doesn't eat pork. It's easy for workers to become obsessed with their diet. Of course, it's legitimate in some cases. In others, I chalk it up to boredom. But seriously, "Call for instructions"? Uff-da. How about this: That worker could volunteer to do all the cooking while he's in residence.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2014 8:50:16 GMT -5
Talking about audacity... Do you think it's necessary for workers to send ahead diet restriction before visit by a home? The local special meetings were just last week and my parents had 3 brother workers for supper and the night Saturday. Every single one of them had special instructions about their food. One ate no "fatty foods" another was Gluten free, and the third actually had on the list "Call for instructions about food/diet restrictions." Ridiculous or necessary? ☆Arwen☆ I would expect that there are some legitimate requests. I'm not gluten intolerant, but I do know from close observation how miserable life can be for a celiac who has eaten a piece of bread. Life is truly miserable until after it passes through the digestive system. On the other hand, I have seen some pretty weird dietary situations as well. For some, it is almost as though having people cater to their dietary requirements is their way of commanding affirmation that they are loved and wanted......just a guess there. The majority of workers though are somewhat heroic (or stoic) about the food placed in front of them. A worker who doesn't utilize the "special diet" clause in their contract is generally game to eat anything placed in front of them and are complimentary about it.....whether they like it or not I suspect. For most of the workers, they generally only have preferences about drinks such as coffee, tea, juice etc, but those preferential differences are widely acceptable in all social circles.
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Post by jondough on Apr 12, 2014 9:09:17 GMT -5
Most workers I have had are very thankful for any arrangement they get - which was separate rooms, but i didn't feel like they were expecting anything special. Most are also very thankful with whatever is fixed for meals. We very seldom fix them breakfast, but rather set stuff out and let them help themselves at whatever time works best. Our family is coming and going in the mornings, and that seems to work best for everyone. The Workers seem to like this as well.
If it were me, I"d rather sleep outside in a sleeping bag, rather than have to sleep in the same room as a snoring companion. I don't know how they do it.
Like in everything, there are always the exceptions.
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Post by jondough on Apr 12, 2014 9:11:56 GMT -5
Its kind of funny though....With todays day and age - one of the first questions is "Can I get the password to your WIFI?" .
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2014 9:18:45 GMT -5
Its kind of funny though....With todays day and age - one of the first questions is "Can I get the password to your WIFI?" . Haha.....just happened here yesterday!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2014 9:21:17 GMT -5
Most workers I have had are very thankful for any arrangement they get - which was separate rooms, but i didn't feel like they were expecting anything special. Most are also very thankful with whatever is fixed for meals. We very seldom fix them breakfast, but rather set stuff out and let them help themselves at whatever time works best. Our family is coming and going in the mornings, and that seems to work best for everyone. The Workers seem to like this as well. If it were me, I"d rather sleep outside in a sleeping bag, rather than have to sleep in the same room as a snoring companion. I don't know how they do it. Like in everything, there are always the exceptions. Definitely, the impression that we get practically all the time is that any arrangement is appreciated. We do find though that they like to sit down with us for breakfast as well if possible. I don't know why, but the conversation around our table is usually robust so perhaps it is a bit of entertainment for them!
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Post by gecko45 on Apr 12, 2014 15:27:17 GMT -5
Generally there was a breakfast with the whole family present at some hour that suited the kids going to school and/or the parent(s) work schedule. A morning study right after the breakfast was over was often part of the ritual.
Some workers have said that they miss the late night visits with their companions, since that no longer happens with separate rooms, but the majority appreciate a little time to be alone and private.
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Post by Sylvestra on Apr 12, 2014 21:59:14 GMT -5
Most workers I have had are very thankful for any arrangement they get - which was separate rooms, but i didn't feel like they were expecting anything special. Most are also very thankful with whatever is fixed for meals. We very seldom fix them breakfast, but rather set stuff out and let them help themselves at whatever time works best. Our family is coming and going in the mornings, and that seems to work best for everyone. The Workers seem to like this as well. If it were me, I"d rather sleep outside in a sleeping bag, rather than have to sleep in the same room as a snoring companion. I don't know how they do it. Like in everything, there are always the exceptions. I got a laugh out of this considering the household you were raised in!! Think of all the spouses with snoring partners!!
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Post by déjà vu on Apr 12, 2014 23:55:16 GMT -5
Talking about audacity... Do you think it's necessary for workers to send ahead diet restriction before visit by a home? The local special meetings were just last week and my parents had 3 brother workers for supper and the night Saturday. Every single one of them had special instructions about their food. One ate no "fatty foods" another was Gluten free, and the third actually had on the list "Call for instructions about food/diet restrictions." Ridiculous or necessary? ☆Arwen☆ We knew that one of the workers loved cheese fondue , so on their next visit we made a cheese fondue, the other worker who was not familiar with the dish came in to the kitchen and said, "I SMELL ALCOHOL!" He was so offended that he refused to join us. it was his lose. so much for eating what is set before you!
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Post by arwen89 on Apr 13, 2014 12:45:43 GMT -5
And of course, I understand if someone is diabetic, lactose intolerant, glucose intolerant, or even trying to lose weight, etc. It just made me guffaw when I heard the "Call for dietary restrictions" clause. And to think that they have it as a seperate heading in their visitors list...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2014 14:31:59 GMT -5
Talking about audacity... Do you think it's necessary for workers to send ahead diet restriction before visit by a home? The local special meetings were just last week and my parents had 3 brother workers for supper and the night Saturday. Every single one of them had special instructions about their food. One ate no "fatty foods" another was Gluten free, and the third actually had on the list "Call for instructions about food/diet restrictions." Ridiculous or necessary? ☆Arwen☆ We knew that one of the workers loved cheese fondue , so on their next visit we made a cheese fondue, the other worker who was not familiar with the dish came in to the kitchen and said, "I SMELL ALCOHOL!" He was so offended that he refused to join us. it was his lose. so much for eating what is set before you! Sounds like a little alcohol would be good medicine for that person's attitude!
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