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Post by ex-teenager on Aug 9, 2008 11:14:54 GMT -5
Hi,
Anyone heard of the number of weddings this year and the changing "rules".
There seems to be confusion as to what is acceptable, is it 40 guests that is the maximum?
What about the parties... oh and are hats allowed?
TG spoke about them at convention.. but whats the big deal with having a small wedding, the one Jesus attended was pretty big.
I think the workers in Ireland need to get a grip and stop getting caught up in petty things, leave it to the elders and continue spreading the Good news.
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Post by no elders on Aug 9, 2008 11:29:08 GMT -5
What's it to do with the elder, unless it is his daughter getting married???
You are right, workers should follow Jesus.
Jesus is recorded telling people that he would not be a "divider of property"on one occasion.
I am absolutely sure that he would not be a meddler in wedding affairs either.
With due respect to those who do follow Scripture, the others should concern themselves with keeping the one important commandment Jesus gave. Unfortunately this falls by the wayside when workers are out of order commanding and demanding and sowing seeds of guilt instead of seeds of love and hope for all mankind.
What's with making friends feel guilty even about their weddings???
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Post by middle men on Aug 9, 2008 12:57:37 GMT -5
There are too many middle men in my view.
I prefer to deal direct with God. He never told me to limit my friends at my wedding. Thankyou.
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Post by were you there on Aug 13, 2008 13:06:36 GMT -5
Were you at that wedding down the country? Marquis, caterers, (Do the caterers count in the number allowed at the wedding?) There were more than 15. Oh, has the number allowed gone up? 50 did you say? Well there were at least 200 counting kids and all. Helicopters and all.
Fantastic feast, lovely wedding dress and everyone dressed to kill.
When's the next wedding?
I want to be there!
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Post by including on Aug 14, 2008 9:58:55 GMT -5
Does the wedding that concerns brother Tommy include the reception party?
Maybe he is only concerned about the religious ceremony, or absence of religious wedding ceremnony and not the dinner/ dance crack.
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Post by Numbers on Aug 14, 2008 17:10:35 GMT -5
Does the wedding that concerns brother Tommy include the reception party? Maybe he is only concerned about the religious ceremony, or absence of religious wedding ceremnony and not the dinner/ dance crack. Tommie G is concerned only with numbers at weddings. No more than 40 has been the mantra since about 1993. Actually early in 1993 the number was 15, 7.5 from each side. It seems shortly after he had a revelation that allowed him to increase the numbers to 40 and that has not been revised since. People however lin recent years argely ignore the rules and are having 60 plus although 100 is wide of the mark as most people do not count children amongst the number. Of course white/ivory wedding gowns are de rigeur, as apparently, this season anyway, two bridesmaids. There have been a number of rather wonderful confections of wedding frocks sporting slim shoulder straps or none at all, spoiled by badly cut bolero jackets in fabric that is almost a match. Ditch the jackets girls and wear your dress as it is intended to be. If you don't want to bare your shoulders, wear a dress with sleeves. You'll not be left wondering in years to come what the hell you were thinking when you cobbled together an ill-made jacket that made you look like you'd a hunchback.
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Post by what wine on Aug 20, 2008 11:52:19 GMT -5
What wine do they offer at weddings?
Do they wait until the people are well gone before offering the best wine??
Just asking..........
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Post by hope on Oct 5, 2008 3:36:38 GMT -5
Hi, I think the workers in Ireland need to get a grip and stop getting caught up in petty things, leave it to the elders and continue spreading the Good news. what "good news" do the workers spread exactly~? I never heard any good news until I left the meetings and met Jesus!
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Post by ex-teenager on Oct 6, 2008 14:26:21 GMT -5
Hi, I think the workers in Ireland need to get a grip and stop getting caught up in petty things, leave it to the elders and continue spreading the Good news. what "good news" do the workers spread exactly~? I never heard any good news until I left the meetings and met Jesus! Ha, so you never heard about Jesus from the workers? Now someone is being silly...
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Post by aileen on Oct 8, 2008 12:16:51 GMT -5
I note that on facebook there are photos of professing weddings, many of them, and that they show quote different characteristics than some assert here: 150 guests wine and beer fancy clothes multiple attendants both of the bride and the groom fancy getaway after hijinks, and workers particpating in that music, bands, dancing.
Its evidence that theres a difference between what people say happens and what happens.
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Post by september on Oct 8, 2008 13:17:00 GMT -5
I note that on facebook there are photos of professing weddings, many of them, and that they show quote different characteristics than some assert here: 150 guests wine and beer fancy clothes multiple attendants both of the bride and the groom fancy getaway after hijinks, and workers particpating in that music, bands, dancing. Its evidence that theres a difference between what people say happens and what happens. Multiple attendants are common - I'll not name and shame here. Fancy clothes - Spectacular prices paid for some frocks. Again, I'll not name and shame. Fancy getaway? Fancy arrivals too. But I'm not naming anybody. Music - yes. Magicians - yes.
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Post by nastysteve on Apr 14, 2009 1:35:33 GMT -5
My Mom got re-married recently. Dad died 3 years ago. It was a F&W wedding and 6 workers were there. There was no white wedding dress, no alcohol just a CD of some wedding music etc. "The Friends" are still fairly rigid here in Canada
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Post by degem on Apr 14, 2009 10:41:44 GMT -5
Congratulations to your mom and husband, "nastysteve"
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Post by someguy on Apr 14, 2009 14:21:20 GMT -5
My Mom got re-married recently. Dad died 3 years ago. It was a F&W wedding and 6 workers were there. There was no white wedding dress, no alcohol just a CD of some wedding music etc. "The Friends" are still fairly rigid here in Canada GASP we are frigi....oops I see you wrote rigid. Yep you bet we are rigid up here. At a friendly wedding what would have made it less rigid. Just curious. I have been to many weddings north and south of the line, none of them have had alcohol if both parties are professing but if one of them isn't, alcohol is there. Music lately has been all sorts of "worldly music" but no live bands, at least not at any wedding I have been to.
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Post by Ramona on Apr 17, 2009 9:21:40 GMT -5
My wedding in 1979 was off the chain worldly - outdoors at Spring Mill State Park, attendants, worldy music ( some Elvis tunes), white dress - with sleeves ( geez you don't see that anymore) BUT when I asked my worker cousin to pray, it was an adamant NO WAY! He and his companion wouldn't even come to my wedding. And he was disappointed in me too because I had bangs....... I paid a price for my worldy wedding - was talked about and scorned by the professing faithful in southern Indiana.
Not like that anymore...just like everthing else that changes - professing weddings are as elaborate and worldly as anyone elses. Complete with workers praying, wine at some and most definitly music - maybe short of dancing - but that will be next if not already.
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Post by sharonhargreaves on May 12, 2009 12:44:46 GMT -5
Sophie wrote: "maybe short of dancing " Maybe someone should read Psalm 150 and some others like it!! sharon hargreaves
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Post by freespirit on May 26, 2009 14:30:07 GMT -5
BUT when I asked my worker cousin to pray, it was an adamant NO WAY! He and his companion wouldn't even come to my wedding. And he was disappointed in me too because I had bangs....... I hope at some point in time between then and now he grew a brain. ;D freespirit
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Post by september on May 26, 2009 19:14:17 GMT -5
BUT when I asked my worker cousin to pray, it was an adamant NO WAY! He and his companion wouldn't even come to my wedding. And he was disappointed in me too because I had bangs....... I hope at some point in time between then and now he grew a brain. ;D freespirit Workers were invited to two of my sibling's weddings and refused. They had not complied with the 40 guest rule. They were upset as they considered the workers they had invited to be personal friends. I didn't bother inviting any. Why set yourself up to be refused?
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Post by ronhall on May 27, 2009 8:20:57 GMT -5
For some reason workers have historically been known to prefer avoiding weddings while avidly attending funerals of professing folks.
However there have been some workers to our area who seemed more comfortable in this venue, Muriel Erickson being one.
Perhaps there's an underlying thought that having workers in attendance might somehow bestow a blessing on the marriage. This notion might put a responsibility on the worker for which she/he would have no control. Should the marriage progress into a chaotic or sullen relationship and end acrimonious, the worker might feel this reflects on her/his reputation. A funeral subjects workers to no such risk.
This old fellow thinks workers would be well served to promote weddings and marriage. The scriptures states it is honorable for all. It also makes for future homes for workers to stay and regeneration of young folks to carry on, perhaps even some to be their replacements when they die.
On the same token, workers would be well served to promote education and careers. If you look at history, God's people, at their best, were industrious folks, exploring and settling in new areas, building walled cities, pushing back enemies while looking ahead with joy to a better future. They respected the thinking of their aged ones and the strength of their youth.
What better opportunity to promote the health, longevity and expansion of the kingdom than for workers to joyously promote the love of a young man and his bride at a wedding.
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Post by freespirit on May 27, 2009 9:28:36 GMT -5
This old fellow thinks workers would be well served to promote weddings and marriage. The scriptures states it is honorable for all. Jesus went to a wedding, told parables about weddings...
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Post by WALL-E on May 27, 2009 15:33:43 GMT -5
And even brought the booze.
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Post by ronhall on May 28, 2009 8:53:53 GMT -5
And even brought the booze. After men had well drunk.
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